Covert or Controlling Abuse
Abuse is almost entirely about control. It is often a primitive and immature reaction to life circumstances in which the abuser (usually in his childhood) was rendered helpless. It is about re-exerting one's identity, re-establishing predictability, mastering the environment – human and physical.
The bulk of abusive behaviours can be traced to this panicky reaction to the remote potential for loss of control. Many abusers are hypochondriacs (and difficult patients) because they are afraid to lose control over their body, its looks and its proper functioning. They are obsessive-compulsive in an effort to subdue their physical habitat and render it foreseeable. They stalk people and harass them as a means of "being in touch" – another form of control.
To the abuser, nothing exists outside himself. Meaningful others are extensions, internal, assimilated, objects – not external ones. Thus, losing control over a significant other – is equivalent to losing control of a limb, or of one's brain. It is terrifying.
Independent or disobedient people evoke in the abuser the realization that something is wrong with his worldview, that he is not the centre of the world or its cause and that he cannot control what, to him, are internal representations.
“A bushel of top quality Canadian hard red spring wheat makes approximately 67 -16 oz loaves of bread. Assuming a wheat price, to producers, of $8 a bushel, there’s about 12 cents worth of wheat in a loaf of bread." - a year ago it was 8 cents per loaf. rising cost of bread being attributed to the primary cost of this commodity is unfounded.
Cleopatra decided she must see Caesar. She lay down on a carpet. Then her servants rolled up the carpet with Cleopatra inside. Then the carpet was taken to the palace where Ceasar was staying. The guards saw some people carrying a carpet and they didn't stop them. They carried the carpet to Caesar. Then Cleopatra came out of the carpet. Caesar fell in love with her and they became lovers.
The return to innocence
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-JpJjsHgYHA
"When people who practice an art like music become captives of those
positive assumptions of system, when they forget to credit that
happening against negation which system is, and when they become
disrespectful of the immensity of negation compared to system -- then
they put themselves out of reach of that replenishment of invention
upon which creative ideas depend, because invention is, in fact, a
cautious dipping into the negation that lies outside system from a
position firmly ensconced"
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lyNy4EJsZqY
- Glenn Gould (classical pianist)
"The world breaks everyone and afterward many are strong in the broken places. But those that will not break it kills. It kills the very good and the very gentle and the very brave impartially. If you are none of these you can be sure it will kill you too but there will be no special hurry."
~ Ernest Hemingway, A Farewell to Arms, 1929
all which isn't singing is mere talking
all which isn't singing is mere talking
and all talking's talking to oneself
(whether that oneself be sought or seeking
master or disciple sheep or wolf)
gush to it as diety or devil
-toss in sobs and reasons threats and smiles
name it cruel fair or blessed evil-
it is you (ne i)nobody else
drive dumb mankind dizzy with haranguing
-you are deafened every mother's son-
all is merely talk which isn't singing
and all talking's to oneself alone
but the very song of(as mountains
feel and lovers)singing is silence
ee cummings
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Moqui Takoda on June 17thank you for all the wonderful comments you leave on my poems ... I have not commented on your poetry nearly as often as I want to ... your comment on my poem 'immeasurably, infinitely' made me feel excellent ...
you are a very fine poet and when I read your poetry and see your fantastic author page with the quote by cummings, I am glad you are on AP.
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But thank you thank you thank you. I always appreciate and respect what you have to say. When I find the time, I promise I will get around to commenting on yours.
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