Your Opinion

Dear Kelsi,
  I was just wondering who to talk to about yesterday’s happenings. I hope you won’t mind that you came to mind. You seem to be someone who would listen without judging harshly.
  I had to deliver a long thought-out speech to my husband. We have been together off and on (mostly on) since I was eighteen. We have separated several times because of outside interference. But I think we reunited for all the wrong reasons. True, there is a love there, but not the over-powering passionate love that should be the basis of a marriage. At least that is my thinking.
  He was surprised, which threw me, for I thought he was equally aware of the lack of that spark when we are alone together. It was there for a few years but couldn’t withstand the ebb and flow of times. I don’t hate him at all, I just hate what is lacking in my life. If he would be honest, he would admit he hates it as well. We have grown so far apart that I only want to run away and see if either of us would miss the daily grind of life without the other. I’m not even looking to find someone else, though there is a man I’m interested in, I just want to not dread having to search for things to say and then him not listening. I fear I am the same toward him. I can’t get past the idea that he was shocked. I’m in awe of his stern denial of my evaluation of our situation. He could not get past the fact that I am not mad or anything; I just want to relax in the coming years. It’s too much of a struggle to keep up a farce for me. Wouldn’t you think he would feel the same?
  Am I being selfish? I thought I was giving to him what I want for myself. I truly believed he would be as relieved as I with the suggestion I move out but remain friends.
We don’t have a “private life” anymore so it still sounds like a great solution to me. I’m really sorry he disagrees and appears hurt at my decision.
  Please accept my apology for dumping on you. I just needed some outlet and even thought you might have a thought or two on the matter. Thanks for listening.


                                                                                Your friend,
                                                                                  Sharon