I don't do candy and flowers
Or chivalrous open doors
Keep your cd mixes
And refrain from false pet names
I will not get on your damn pedestal
Respect me, love me
But the day you worship me
You die.
Please tell me what you think
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I don't advocate putting women on a pedestal. That weakens the relationship. I understand the "I can do it" attitude. However, in order for a man to feel like one, he needs to be able to do it for you. It's not about worship or idolization, it's about doing what we're made for. When men are told to stop those things, or to behave, or to act more civil, we're being told to ignore the core of who we are.
Relationships are certainly a partnership. I don't always have the option to pay, and I don't hold the door open all the time. However, at the beginning of my relationship, I did. It's a way for me to show that I'm a man and I know how to treat a woman. As the relationship grows, formalities fade. Doors open less, chairs stop moving, etc. At the same time, we as men should always be doing romantic things for our girls. One thing I've noticed is that when I stop those things, the relationship isn't as strong.
Out of our respect and love, we tend to do things that many feminists would shudder to think about. However, what I've noticed is that most of the time the core of feminism is less about empowering women and more about emasculating men. Let us be men (note: I'm not saying "boys" or "guys." My word choice is intentional) and we'll let you be women. We know you can do for yourself, but we actually enjoy providing and doing for you. We are wired to do that, and don't feel like complete men when we're not.
Most guys don't necessarily have a conscious grasp on this either. But I guarantee the core of every guys contains at least some of what I've said.
P.S. How are you? I haven't heard from you in many moons.
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