the alcoholic is a bully,
a manipulator;
what the alcoholic requires is
constant attention;
what the alcoholic wishes
to destroy
is the attention giver;
a carefully orchestrated ballet of subtle
sadomasochistic gratification;
the alcoholic is both sadist and masochist,
he externalises
the masochistic function
onto another,
so that he can watch himself suffer;
the inversion of ‘mirror mirror on the wall
who is the fairest of them all?’
projections of self loathing allow
the alcoholic to retreat further
into his own egotistical narcissism;
where he can drink himself into oblivion
crying ‘woe is me’
as a form of denial
that he cares for no-one but himself;
while the world, and you,
flutter to the floor like scraps of torn paper.
Comments
1 - 7 of 7
-
Been there/done that, like far too many others have. They are ponderously needful creatures who cannot care for themselves, let alone anyone else, no matter what their words might say. You've nailed it with this piece, Poet. Well done. 
-
I am an addict in recovery for the past 13 years, and it always haunts me to see what I must have been and done to my family. I feel your pain written here. The hurt in knowing that you sit second to the substance is a true revelation for me. You are a strong individual to stick it out. I hope the one that this is written about seeks help soon. It is there if they want it. The road is long and harsh. The results of active recovery are greater than those of active addiction. My heart mourns for you but for the one who suffers the ills of this torment as well. Sorry you have to suffer through this atrocity. I wish you well.
Much Love & Respect ♥
Renee
-
-
well done to you Renee! At least you recognised you had a problem and tackled it, that takes strength and courage. It's the ones who choose not to and love to blame everyone else that cause the most heartache playing on their own weaknesses. I think the worse thing for a partner is the helplessness they feel when they realise all their love is in vain. I have a friend who has been in this situation for a long time now & I hope she has finally realised there is little she can do if he won't help himself.
Blessings xxx
-
-
so sad
Wishing you all the best
-
I hear ya sister...these are powerful and bold words....
"intervention" helped my family
recover from the claws of addiction....
and we are still in the process of healing as a family...
one day at a time....learning to accept the things we cannot change,
(like the broken promises and weary lies) and then to graciously
ask for the courage to change the things we can...
(humbly apologize and prove each day..one day at time...they we can
learn as a family to live a sober life)
learning to understand the dis-ease of addiction...
how it affects the brain and how long it actually takes to heal
helped our family enormously.
This dis-ease affects one in eight families!
Intervention helped our drunk to understand...
you will go to rehab and learn tools to recover...
because no longer are we "willing" to prolong this pain
and destroy our family!
(it took me a year to find the courage to stand my ground)
I called upon sober members of both our families,
and together...we leaned upon each other to stand our ground.
-
-
I wanted to give voice to the other 'victims' of this situation, without allowing the 'drinker' to get into the spotlight. Too often the other voices are silenced because of the focus on the one with the problem. This way the kid gloves were off!
-
-
this is very true. such a brutal honest write, and written so uniquely.
this is very good work, though a sad write it may be
x
Adding your comment:
1 - 7 of 7
