August, 19th 2008
Hello,
I got so frustrated today -
what was I to do?
They aren't MY kids,
but I sure do love them too..
How can I be stern,
and still be their friend..
This all seems so confusing!
Maybe I need to learn to BeNd.
Ughh... The frustration grows everyday
that I hold in and can't figure out the way!
But I love them...
And I want them to know,
I am only trying to help them grow.
Author notes
I am a soon to be step mom, I wrote this poem in journal form - if that is even a such thing!
Anyhow, my fiance has two kids, one boy and one girl, ages 6 and 7. It has been really tough, as they test me daily to see how hard they can push me... I get frustrated sometimes, and think it causes tension in our relationship, I have to step in and be a parent figure, and at the same time try and be their friend... It's a hard juggle. I have a 2 year old of my own, perhaps it's a bit easier when they are your own, you don't have the fear of them not loving you... Know what I mean? Ughh, so here is my entry - is frustration mode! Sorry if this isn't what you were looking for.
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A contest entry
- Finally Someone To Talk To by storiesuntold.
450 points, ended September 2, 2008, 16 entries
Honorable mention
• next poem in this contest, remove from contest
Constructive Criticism Welcome - Be Honest - Thanks :)
Comments
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As with any parenting act it will be hard I am still learing everyday with my daughter but the thing that you need to know is that you and the children will learn and grow together and with time things will fall together and things will be fine goodluck to you and your family much love always
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Thank you dear, for taking the time and reading my frustration today lol
WHat you said means a lot, I know things take time, Maybe I just want things to magically happen over night, and that's just not how it goes... Ahhh - 
Thank you again dear 
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I hear you and yes it will be tough
Honey it wont happen overnight and love has to be earned from them as well as from you . Find out what it is your husband has instilled in corection for them and see where you stand there .Then find out their likes and dislikes and moods for all kids have them just as we do . Care for them as if they were your very own and know they too are going through a big change for I dont know what happened to their mother or the cituation . I am going to be brutally honest here if their Dad left their mother for you then you may have a battle till the end for they still love their mother .But remember to be fair and yet when you ask them to do something dont let it slide not once for they will use it against you . Be good to them and do things with them and love them and in time they will see your not a monster OK . Listen to them really listen to what they are saying to you for not hearing them is the worst thing you can do. If they wont talk then this will be your husband to be territory to bring you all more together but not by force he also needs to listen and the answer is there .
Good luck in your new life and keep in mind love from another has to be earned from both sides and this doesnt happen overnight .
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Thank you so much This makes me feel much better, I may come back and look at this when frustrations get high!
My fiance did not leave their mom for me, they decided to call it quits about a year before we met, so they were not together when we met, they both lived in their own places etc. I actually get along well with their mom, we just went shopping together the other day, and she is happy for Mike (my fiance) and I. I know too, that the kids may be used to how it was before me and my daughter moved in... Mike was living on his own and lonely so the kids basically got to stay up till the AM, and didn't really have structure - Now I come into the picture (and we've lived together now for about 9 months, we moved into a new apartment together and everything) and feel like I have to put some structure in their lives... I always want to fix everything lol! You are right, give it time, and things don't just happen over night-
Again thank you SO much, for your kind, and caring words
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