Lindsey I'm sorry the way things have been.
Between you and me we haven't been able
To establish much of a relationship.
Pop believes that the reason is because
I'm a male and you're a female.
Nothing could be further from the truth
But being the black and white tabloid believer
That he is he chooses to believe that.
WELL THAT'S HIS PROBLEM!
The real truth is Lindsey, is that you and I
are just so different from one another.
Unlike me and Keith, we don't seem to have
anything in common from the food we eat
To music, to activities, to places we like to go.
On top of that, you choose to act like a spoiled
little baby half the time and it drives me crazy!
You act the way a three-year-old would act
When it comes to not getting your way, being scared
of something, and so on.
You crowd my brother, which makes me even more upset!
You refuse to allow him his time and space on the
computer, even in his own room!
You show no consideration or respect for him which
pisses me off more than anything!
WHAT KIND OF SISTER ARE YOU???
You have a lot of style, brains, beauty and courage, Lindsey.
You have a lot of potential and lots of great wisdom.
Why don't you do yourself a favor and put it to
good use? Use it to do good things for others rather than
spending all your time goofing off with your friends and
being a stressful burden to my brother, who never once has
done such a thing to you?
That's the reason why I haven't made any effort to spend
time with you. You're so locked in your own world of conquest
and so on that it's made me not want to reach out;
Which is why the bond is primarily between Keith and me.
Nevertheless you are my sister and I think we both deserve
a chance to spend time together and try to heal all this
misunderstanding, confusion, anger and controversy.
Life's too short for such things to exist in a family and
we should make an effort to patch it up.
I love you sweetheart. I've never denied that, I've never
stopped, I've always known it. I've loved you from the day
you were born. It's just our differences that have kept me
away, but foolishly I've allowed that to happen.
Well I don't want to anymore.
Can we please try to make it work? Can we please try to
become more bonded? You may be more independent and wanting to
be with your friends which is natural and expected.
But it doesn't mean we can't bond as well. It also doesn't mean
we have to get together every single day. Just enough so we can know each other well and have respect.
I love you Lindsey.
Please believe me.
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For my real life sister Lindsey, who I'm at odds with right now.
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I feel anger but willingness to overcome the bump in ur road that's in ur way. it deep. hope everything works out ok. -
You are brave to do this Brian. To point out flaws with yourself and your own flesh and blood for the better, to seal the cracks. Wishing you all the best with your sister.
With respect and care,
Nat
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Thanks Nat.
Brian
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Dear Brian,
I know you have been having problems with Lindsey because you've told me about them before and I know it must be hard to want to spend time with her if you perceive her to be doing things which upset your brother. Sometimes that's just the way it is in families though. I once heard that it is often the people you love the most who you treat the worst...and I know first-hand that is true. I'm not sure why but I feel Lindsey might just feel misunderstood and that is why she is acting out. Maybe it is because she is the same age as me that I feel a little connection to her. Lindsey has two brothers. I have four! and I know I have felt misunderstood by them sometimes...but anytime I have gotten angry, I just remember that they love me and even when they do things to annoy me, at the end of the day they still love me...so I just let it go and love them back. I'm so happy to see you making such a beautiful effort to reach out to Lindsey now. I just hope she can see it is coming from your heart.
Ellie x -
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Believe me Ellie I'm trying. I'm not sure Lindsey feels misunderstood though. My therapist tells me girls at that age tend to act like little kids. It's not anything wrong with them, it's just the phase comes sooner than it does for boys. Lindsey is so beautiful inside and out and has great potential. I just don't believe she puts it to as much use as my brother which really upsets me. These days she's so occupied and content with her friends that I haven't bothered to make any plans with her and now she goes to my father and accuses me of neglecting her which leaves me puzzled. She's got everything she wants with her friends so why would she feel left out? My therapist tells me that even though she prefers to be with her friends, she feels hurt that I don't at least inform her of the plans me and my brother make so that could be why, so I'm going to try doing that. Thanks ever so much for your support, Ellie. I wish all girls in the world were as deep hearted as you. God bless and take care. Be the best you can be.
Love Brian
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