Love is a spontaneous embrace
Given or received
While arguing.
Author notes
This is something I try to do when my wife and I are having a, uh, loud disagreement. (Fortunately, it doesn't happen very often.) Right when we're both most annoyed and about to kill each other, I hug her. She usually tries to push me away but I don't let go, maybe make a bad joke about how funny she looks when she's angry, the vein popping out on her forehead, etc., and keep hugging her until she relents, hugs me back, and laughs despite herself. The theory is that it's easy to love someone when they're behaving the way we want them to and saying all the right things, but not so easy when they (or we) are being a pain in the keester, so the greatest test of how strong and real the love is is demonstrating our love for the person when they're at their worst, not just at their best. Try it. It's not easy! lol
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- Love's (10 words ) by HopelessScribbles.
300 points, ended May 17, 2008, 8 entries
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Sunshine,
This is brilliant. I know how hard it is to love someone when they are angry at you... (well not love them, but SHOW them you love them). I have been known to do this too. Hug someone who is angry with me and keep hugging them until they hug me back. I think a hug says so much about relationships that it often gets overlooked for other things that are great, but not as important. In my opinion anyway.
Great write.
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Thanks, Criss. I'm not surprised you're the first to hug during an argument. That is so YOU.
It's also fun to do something that the angry person can't help laughing at. Whatever it takes to make them crack up when they really just want to be mad. Then they get mad because you made them laugh, and laugh some more, and get mad again, etc., etc. lol
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What can I say? I hate when someone is angry at me and I love hugs, so why not put the two together! (lol just kidding).
Yeah. I have been known to do that too. It makes people more angry when you make them laugh when all they want to do is be mad.
This reminded me of a song..
I don't feel like loving you today,
So don't you even try to change my mind,
The best thing you can do right now,
Is just go away,
Cause I don't feel like loving you today,
I don't wanna talk about last night,
I'm angry and I haven't had much sleep,
And I'm so tired and bloodshot,
they ain't no tellin' what I'd say,
I don't feel like loving you today,
But you know I will anyway,
Even though we make it hard sometimes.
I'll wind up forgiving you and probably loving you,
For the rest of my life,
But I don't feel like loving you today,
And I've got 16 hours left to go.
I might tell you that I'm leaving
Even though you know I'll stay,
Cause I don't feel like loving you today.
But you know I will anyway,
Even though we make it hard sometimes.
I'll wind up forgiving you and probably loving you,
For the rest of my life.
But I don't feel like loving you today.
I just don't feel like loving you today.
Criss
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LOL!
I would feel privileged to have a husband that does this...
Of course, that feeling would come AFTER the one where I'd feel like bludgeoning him with the heaviest bat I could find! LOL
Nice clip art, too!
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I love this and it is so true. Love can disspell any situation. Love and fear cannot exist at the same time
and this is a great example of that.
May you be blessed
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You got married!!!
Hey, your way of ending an 'uh, loud disagreement' is certainly the best way of all!
Never go to sleep mad at each other is a great recipe to a long lasting relationship
This is so short but so very cute and TRUE!
Now I feel like hugging someone too
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Making someone want to hug someone randomly has got to be one of the highest accomplishments a poem can achieve. Thanks!
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I've never been married. (Being broke and disabled at 38 - with bad teeth, too! - has kind of put the kibosh on that - possibly forever.) But if it works for you, thank God. The last thing I want to see is a friend messed up because of a divorce. (I like you a lot!) Good poem as usual and I wish you and your wife the best there is to offer! (Except for the chicken. Leave them to me, ALRIGHT?!!) Ha! Yours - oce
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Thanks, Oce. And don't despair - there is someone for everyone. Sense of humor goes a long way, which you have in spades. I hear the Three Stooges got a lot of action. If they can do it, anyone can. (Especially Shemp.)
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Bravo!
These are wise and insightful words Mark, the more we come from a place of love the more we become "that place of love". It's not about who starts it...forget the blame thing, but who makes the move to end it, in a loving way.
From what little I realy know about you Mark, this feels very congruent.
Much repsect,
Henri
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I am so glad you got a gold trophy for this because it is a golden idea (and golden rule). Hug others like you would want to be hugged.
Well done, Mark
Cheryl
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No Mark, it's not easy!
Great little verse, I've tried a few of the ten word ones but I find it really hard. Maybe it's because I'm female and have the gift of the gab!! Why use ten words when you can use 100.
Actually to tell you the truth, I'm not that much of a big talker, big typer, but not talker.
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Awhh, how cute is that emoticon thingy? I loved it hehe. I found some humor in this, which I love. Wonderful job and congrats on your gold.
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How could she resist such a debonnaire attempt at chilvarous & provocative gallantry, my Friend??? Although she apparently tries to sometimes. Hang on tight to each other, Sweetie. Our petty squabbles have no real meaning in this cruel, enchanting world. Congratulations on your gold, Mark. Wanda
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I really like this tack. I will tell any young man that will listen that the differences of men and women, strength and such makes it so if you raise your voice angrily it is the same as striking. If you put your hands on her, you are trying to hurt her. I guess now, I'll have to modify that last.
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Tis a wonderfully creative penning
I'd have to hold on really tight
Splendidly done indeed
Best of wishes to you.
Tony
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Lol! this is so true, I have to giggle as WE do the same thing, as life after a disagreement is at times stressful lol, nice on here, thank you for this entry, good luck...
Lin
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