On April 16, 2008, 7:26PM
I enjoyed one of the most exciting things in my life
I got to witness the birth of my first born child
God has blessed my wife and I with a 6lb 14oz, 20in long baby girl named Destinee Jewell Pressley
But after the joy of watching her come into the world
There came hurt, frustration, and pain
Because as we were in the hospital,
I began to discover a difference in the way my wife was being treated and how I was being treated
They treated my wife with 1st class treatment...
whatever she needed the staff nurses were at her beck and call
She was given 3 meals a day...most of which she did not eat
She was given a complimentary back massage
And when we left the hospital she was pushed in a wheel chair
I, on the other hand, felt as though I was only the sperm donor
I believe most hospitals are trained
to prepare mothers to be single parents
And this is what I felt my wife was being educated to do
But do I blame the hospital?
No I do not...
For society has labeled and stereotyped our men
to be extinct, a dying breed, lost, or simply,
no where to be found
Statistics say that 8 out of 10 fathers
never take part in raising their children,
because they are either with another woman or in jail
Highly acclaimed play/movie writer and directer Tyler Perry
even bases his writings upon men who do not assume their responsibility, usually there is one
who is presented as the knight in shining armor
Well I am here to let you know that I am not your knight
in shining armor...but I am a good man,
who not only stands for being faithful to God,
but also being faithful to my wife,
and my child
I stand against the statistics that say
that boys are raised by women...
and the ones who have a good relationship
with their fathers are outcasts...
yes there are men who have fled
from their responsibilities...
but let me help you understand why...
Men who weep and cry are labeled as sissy, or a punk
And usually when we see a man who is very sensitive
majority of the time he becomes a homosexual
So when men are hurting or afraid
we are unable to express it...
because not only are we carrying our own fears and insecurities...but we also carry the fears and
insecurities of our wives, and the labels
that society has placed on us
...and even the ones we place on ourselves
So, for some it is easier to run and not have to deal with the challenges and struggles as opposed to facing it
Even in our churches...on Mother's Day women are honored,
saluted, and glorified for the work they do...
even to the point they are presented with bouquets of flowers
But on Father's Day...we have to sit through a service
where we are attacked from the pulpits...
not given a Word to encourage and and help us to become better fathers to our children..
..or to love our wives as Christ loves the church
But...just like Jesus said unto Mary, when Lazurus was dead..
"Thy brother shall rise again"
Yes we will rise again...
because God has ordained for the man to be the head..
..and as long as Satan can continue
to pollute our minds into thinking that every man is no good..
.then we will stay down
But right now in Jesus' name...
I break every curse that has been placed over man..
.for we shall be husband to one wife..
..we shall be fathers unto our children...
we shall provide for our household...
we shall run at the face of adversity..
.in fact God is raising up strong men of God
who will teach boys to be men..
..men who will not abuse their wives
mentally or physically..
.in Jesus' name I pray...
Amen
Please tell me what you think
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really intriguing
i was thinking of my husband the whole read through ...for we had our baby girl in July 2008....and he once said that people treat me as if i am the only on who had the baby....he is a very devoted husband and father ...really loving.....and society does diminish their role ....but it is reallly good to know that there are a few good men out there.....and satan is trully trying to keep the men from taking up their God given responsibilty to lead thier families....thats why society is in amess cuz the family is in a mess.....reallly appreciate your thoughts in this poem....keepp up being a good dad to ur baby girl ...and a good husband to ur wife.......and CONGRATULATIONS on ur bundle of joy..... -
What a beautiful thought!
Initially i wondered if this was poetry or prose... and i am no expert so i just enjoyed the write up! But if u seek advice then I'd say that you could try and cut the prose "feel".
I have been fortunate and have never met the stereotype man. My father, brother, husband and son are beautiful people.
"men who will not abuse their wives
mentally or physically..
.in Jesus' name I pray..."
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Thought Provoking Aries
My Father was the most gentle wonderful man.
My Husband is a kind loving man.My two sons are
good ,kind helpful,loving boys.I think men are being
looked at by the way they 'present' themselves and
how they live their lives with people who are in their lives.It really is up to ourselves to make of
our lives what we can.We alone make the decisions
that effect ourselves by what we doand how we react
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It made me want to cry. I know that not all men are deadbeats, my daddy has always been the one man I knew I could always count on, and I believed when I got married that my husband would be the same way, and he wasn't. I also know that it is men or should i say "boys" like him that give men a bad name. I don't judge all bc of him, but I know their are a few good ones left. Great write!
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this is great. I loved reading it. Because people need to see that there are still some great men out there. So keep it up. Bravo Big brother and congrats on your daughter.
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Right on!
Here here!
I think your essay is right on.
Society has conditioned people to think it normal for the father to be absent. I don't like this either because I have seen my friends without their father or any father figures. My own dad has always been there (still is) for me thank God.
However, not all churches berate the husband. My old home church gave encouragement on father's day...but then our church is considered unconventional by the American Baptist Church standards.
Carry on in Christ my brother. With more men like you things can change in our twisted society, in Jesus' name.
~ Your sister in Christ
Master Warious
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