Sometimes it is difficult to realize all men were, one time, little boys
And as a little boy we were greatly influenced by our mothers.
We ask our mama’s where did we come from?
And, what is love?
Very often we tell mama we want to marry a girl just like her.
Then, just like that, we are no longer little boys
But grown up men,
And yet, we still are little boys in our heart
Especially when we want to be the hero for the woman we love.
It seems almost impossible, to us men, that a woman can say,
“I don’t understand men.”
Because, we men are very simple
And our mothers trained us.
As little boys, we cry just as hard as little girls,
Perhaps louder and more often,
And yet, as we grow—
Big boys don’t cry
Except in our hearts, but we don’t show it.
How can it be that women don’t understand us?
All we want to do is please them and make them happy.
When we see a woman we desire and want,
We immediately become afraid that we will be rejected.
Some of us can’t bear the thought of it.
Others of us just pretend and hide our fear.
Oh how often I have fallen apart inside my heart
And how many times I’ve hidden the fear?
Oh how often I wondered whether or not I am even lovable?
And yet, I continue on—
Looking for the success to overcome my many failures
And hoping I am not laughed at or made fun of
Because I don’t know whether or not I can bear it?
Oh mamma, where are you?
I feel so alone and afraid so often.
My tears are everywhere, and nobody even notices.
Please tell me what you think
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Good job!
Thanks for sharing this and for writing this poem. Nice message from a person like you. You are the best!
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This is all so true, but a good woman accepts us a we are and helps us grow. My wife has helped me see who I am and has helpe dme become the man I am today. I may be one of the lucky ones.
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Very Good
I really liked this poem. To be honest, I have yet to find a man who is willing to let a woman see the lost little boy. They're ... like you said, afraid of what will happen. I agree with Sidney101, It's really nice to see men open up and let us see who they really are. Bravo! -
Thank you so much for writing this. It really made me think about the way I view guys that I know. I need to learn to look beyond their hard shell and see that some of them are crying inside...
Wow. This really is an incredible poem.
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This really touched my heart. I understand men, I know that all they are looking for is the mother within the lover. This is so true. I look at my father 64, and he is still today a big fat baby. Well worded and I am sorry for your pain is very clear here. Well done.
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Well I'm 64 too, so my daughter, lol.
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True. I guees men have to be strong so women can depend on them. It's just nice when men don't act so tough & say they never cry. If you don't cry your not human. If woman are good to their man then they won't look down on them because of their emotions, such as crying. Thats how I am anyway. Men can't always be tough.
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This is very true. Girls are usually more emotional than men. it's just how god made us. guys tend to bottle there emotions up. Let them out. Personally I love it when guys are like that. when men show their emotions it makes them a stronger person.
Wounderfully done
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I used to be a group discussion moderator at "Parents Without Partners" and what I found out is women say they want a man who shows his emotions, like crying, but when they get one they have a problem with respecting and looking up to him.
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this is an incredible insight into the male mind... might explain why my husband is in jail coz his mother has one hell of a temper too lol. personally i prefer men who arent afraid to show their emotions. also men who will cry or yell or vent somehow are less likely to use their fists to show their emotion that way. never be afraid of rejection... there will always be someone who rejects us... that doesnt make us any the less for it... it means its their loss and theres someone better out there... i love this piece,
hugs,
georgie,
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This is a wonderful write. It is true (so far as I can tell) LOL. I am a woman though. I know that my boys are close to my heart and I have seen them both cry. Thank you for sharing this write. I love how you have written it. Well done.
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This is a great write. I was brought to tears when reading this, because its so true, how so many men are afraid to show their feelings. I feel that no matter who you are, one's feelings are important and shouldn't be hidden. when I was young, I was told several times, that my feelings weren't important, that I didn't have the right to show them, they should be kept hidden. because of this, I have taught my son that his feelings are important and no one has the right to tell you different. If they don't want you to express them, then move on. You are important.
I want to know this poem touched me, I noticed your tears.
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You have touched me with your comment. Thank you for reading.You are right fellins are important. You may like m poem on "puppy love" http://allpoetry.com/poem/2909292
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Great Peice- I like the part on how men just want to please the one they desire and love- so true and amazing at the same time. Just the way God made men to be, and that's awuesome!!!
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what a wonderful piece, it helps answer the enigma that surrounds the male species. Just wish that some other would be as fortright as you.
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A lot of men find it difficult in expressing themselves with words. Often men show their love by working and providing. I feel very blessed that I am able to express myself in words as well as the physical, like kissing and caressing. Thank you Emilia for you kind comments.
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Very nice...
we all have reasons to cry, should not have to hide it...male or female...
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This is a great poem. I love how it shows the vulnerability of men, especially because that is something that men usually try with all their might to cover up because they think it isn't masculine to be vulnerable. It also shows emotions, another thing men try to hide. Great work!
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Thank you. I'm glad you noticed my hidden tears.
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When I finished reading this poem, I said 'wow!' Your poem is really good and I love the message that your telling in it. Very good poem!
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Very insightful and refreshingly honest. Thank you.
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remarkable and sensitive
remarkable and sensitive, a view of an inner man showing the human vulnerabilities commont to all yet missing from the male persona. It importantly aqcknowledges the role of women in child rearing but does not address the missing man in the little boy -to man equation which would have added even more interest to a very interesting poem. Well done here...PK
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Thank you for your comment. I appreciate it.
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As seldom as I write, I always marvel at your insight and wisdom...into interpersonal relationships...Appreciate your maturity and your appreciation of Gods' word to as a resource and guideline..You truly have expressed what men and woman need to learn in what you have said here...Thank you for sharing......
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Thank you for your wonderful comments.
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How true is this....?...
We often are looked at as being the 'Dominant' [which is what most ladies look for...so I'm told..lol] yet we are mainly raised by our mothers and her ideals instilled upon us...
You get a total agreeance from me my friend...
Jeffro
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Thank you Jeffro. I respect your opinion, my friend. Jeff
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Many men are unable to get in touch with their feelings. I use to be a group discussion leader, for many years, at Parents without Partners and a lot of men complained that when they showed their feelings to women, women didn't respect them. Men think linearly, and women more randomly. This is why women are better at multi-tasking. There are big differences in the emotional makeup between the sexes. I had women tell me that I was different than most men because I was able to express my feelings, bu then I am a poet--I think?
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i wish men wouldn't be afraid of rejection, because women want to know their feeligns and expressions.
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This is great I have a 12 year old and I offen wonder when is that big day coming when hes a man and not a little boy anymore and you are so right we as mothers have a special spot for our sons I have a daughter and love her just as much it's just so different for me anyways love this write so glad you commented on my poem so that I was lead to this write ~ just one thing I would do is make the font smaller thats just me... Great writing
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I'm glad you enjoyed the poem. I wrote this poem when I saw Dr. Laura Schesslinger on Larry King a couple of years ago. She wrote a book called "Proper Care & Feeding of Husbands" and that's where I got the idea for this poem. I wrote "DESIRE AND MOTIVATION" that you may be interested in that's on column on my page. If you would like to email me it's "jeffreyarowe@msn.com.
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Interesting insight into the male mind
I can tell you why women don't understand men, they hide their feelings and expressions so much of the time! This is a very nice piece- very sweet, simple, and touching.
I really wish that guys wouldn't be so afraid of rejection. Chances are, she will say yes.
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this is a very deep poem. It tell a lot about a boy and it's true. I personally don't have my mom anymore but I promised her that I would treat my wife to be someday like a queen.I really enjoyed this porm. Thanks for telling me about it.
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As little boys, we cry just as hard as little girls,
Perhaps louder and more often,
And yet, as we grow—
Big boys don’t cry
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Throughout this completely *amazing* poem, these lines lingered in my mind. This is so true...
Thank you for reccommending that I read this... I really like it. Do you mind If I put a link to it on my page?
All the best, Zach
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Hi Zach. Thanks for your wonderful comments. Yes, you can put a link to your page.
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AWWWWW I love it. Thank you for sharing it with me.
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The first lines here really hit me. How very true. I often find myself gazing at men and looking for the little boy that was once there. It seems that sometimes it is just gone forever. A very fine work here
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Thank you very much for your comments. . I understand what you are saying; too often we men have to do the macho bit and it’s difficult in letting our true emotions out.
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great
You have said it all in this poem. I really enjoyed it. It takes a real man to express it.
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Thank you very much for your comments.
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Yes we are still little boys at heart, there are many times my mother is the only one who see's my tears... guess we sometims forget and take mom's for granted but they are the only person we can always count on no mater what our mistakes might be
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Thank you very much for your comments. None of us like to be rejected, but to pretend we don’t feel the rejection is part of the macho falsehood we have to endure as men in our society.
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You have portrayed the essence of how a man thinks very well. I was particularly impressed with the insight,
"When we see a woman we desire and want,
We immediately become afraid that we will be rejected.
Some of us can’t bear the thought of it. Others of us just pretend and hide our fear."
A man's primary need is for acceptance and respect just as a woman's primary need is to be loved. Well written. -
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Thank you for you comments. I wrote this based on Dr. Laura Schlesinger's remarks on men and women and their relationships.
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I like the indepth reality of this piece. The reflective nature of it and how it rolls into life. It is as though you are privy to a private sectior of the mind, a memeory, the growth. Excellent piece here!
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Touching, emotional, heartfelt
I saw so much of myself in this poem. So many of the feelings, emotions,the longing to be noticed, to be loved.
So many of the assuptions that big boys "don't cry", are wonderfully expressed. Of course we cry, we are human after all.
I love the line which begins, "oh mamma, where are you?" I'm still very much affected by my own mother's departing, although it's been nearly three years.
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thank you for your comments. I know how you feel as my mother passed a few years ago too.
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That first line....I've always said if you love children you love men because men are still little boys in bigger bodies. This is very true to emotion, and very well and lovingly expressed. Women should raise their sons to have no fear of tears, their own or those of others. Well done. Have a blessed day.
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Awesome!
Wow! you have nailed it again! I love this poem! It really shows how little boys grow into men and still are soft in the heart! Great job again my friend! Keep it coming! Semperfimom39
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Wow Jeff!! This was very heartfelt. I think this is wonderful how you write and show your vulnerable side. Not many men would do that. I love sensitivity in a man. I think men do cry but to themselves. I am always here with a shoulder to lean on. I am very compassionate myself so I appreciate that you are too. You take care and thank you for asking me to read this beautiful poem.
Always here to listen. Sandy
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