You've been taken away
you're not longer here,
an hour away
in your first foster care.
Christmas this year
will be sad for us all,
without your smiley face
and your hugs all around.
You exploded, ranted
and caused a big scene,
the cops were called in
now you're elsewhere.
You're only just twelve
with much on your mind,
ODD is something
I wish you never had.
We love you so deeply
and forever will,
please remember always
and call when you can.
Deny all you want to
the medication's a must,
look where it got you
when you threw it away.
ADHD too
you really can't win,
strikes are against you
just how can we help?
We grandparents care
what happens to you;
please let us know
so we worry not more.
When Christmas is here
we'll remember you,
wish it could be different
next year maybe so.
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Grannyeri
Our 12 year old granddaughter was taken from her mother last night and put into her first foster care in a city an hour away. She will be gone for at least 2 months. She has severe ODD and ADHD (Oppositional Defiance Disorder, and Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder) but does not think there is anything wrong with her. Off her meds for over a week, she just exploded and the police were called in. How we worry about our little ray of sunshine - such a sweetie - that now tears at our heart.
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Such a heartfelt, sad write. I see this was written a couple years ago - I hope things have vastly improved since then.
thank you for your lovely entry
best wishes in the contest
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Sorry to say she is still in the system and has been with us off and on through the past two years. Without admitting to having a problem, her choices are not good ones and she runs away from any meds or efforts to deal with ODD.
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I am sorry to hear that.....I wish you the best.
sending prayer/thoughts/best wishes
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Wow, this deserves gold!!! I love this and have to say good luck!
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So sorry she had to be taken into care. It can be hard at any age to admit that you are in deep trouble. I hope her condition improves and I hope that she and her family will still find some joy at Christmas.
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Danna is right ...
as she so often is. I don't really know how to comment on this poem. It is unfortunate that you will be spending the holidays without your granddaughter, but the truth is that she has to learn that there really IS something wrong with her, and that if she doesn't work on fixing it, nothing in life will EVER be better.
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Wow, this is heartbreaking, I too know the feeling of being without someone I love at Christmas, but in a different way, I had never, to be honest, thought about this sort of situation, it must be so hard to sit by and watch someone self destruct. I wish you and your family all the best for Christmas, may there be little rays of sunshine all around you, and may your grand daughter be returned to you, when time allows, better for the experience and the time away. Bless you all
Karen
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Apostrophe Poem
This is what is known as an apostrophe poem- a poem that is written like a letter to someone who is not there with you.
It is hard to comment on something so personal. I am very sorry that you are going to be spending the holidays without your granddaughter. I hope she is home soon. -
My thoughts and prayers are with you...
I am so very sorry to learn of this...and my thoughts and prayers are with you...may peace fall upon your spirit...and find your family together again very, very soon.
This is a very beautiful write...so real, so raw....fresh...I admire your ability to pen such a touching write about something so very personal and painful to you.....
You are a Poetess indeed...through pain and pleasure your ink reflects truths within your soul...
I shall hold you in my prayers Beautiful Spirit!
Much love, Tammy
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Oh I am so sorry she was taken away. I wrote before about my son and if you ever need to talk, feel free. This is a very touching write. In my prayers,
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Wow... I can't quite relate just because I don't have children or grand children, but I know how I'd feel if I had a friend taken away like that or my brother or parents.... I can tell that your granddaughter means a lot to you and I'm sure she'd love reading this if she has the chance some day. Well done! Good luck in the contest
--Tim
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My heart goes out to you my dear... I have experienced this very same thing with my oldes son who is now 25 , but for many years as a youngster, it was a daily struggle to keep up with him and understand how deeply affected he was by the affliction of ADD. He was on ritalin for years, but even that worked just slightly. There were trying moments everyday and it was so sad. He had to go to a boys home for a spell and that was just horrible! Blessings,
Frog~
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I know what you mean, I had several family members (young members) who where taken from their homes and placed in foster care, i know it's very had a diffcult situation for the family and the child. My prayers to you and yours. I hope everything works out for the best.
Much love
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A great poem longing for diferent chritmas. A parental affection is underlying theme. A great concern for the world starting from near family. May god bestow his favours. Thank you
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Touched My Heart
I have ADHD there is always hope with a Traumatice Brain Injuiry I too have to take my meds for years I did not see anything wrong for me meds were not invented till 2003 I have seen myself heal now I wish they would of been invented sooner. My heart goes out to you I will keep you in my prayes. This is very personal it touches the heart and soul. You always write so well my dear you are so open with your emotions. A very good role model for us all. Happy Holidays to you and your family lots of love b
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Thank you for bringing a sweet voice to these diseases, not easy for any family.
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This definitely is a unique poem. I've never been exposed to ODD, but I've seen kids with ADHD and that was not easy to handle alone. This was a really well done piece, and I wish you and your family the best with this and to have as best a holiday season as you can. touching write.
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Many hugs for you. Such a sad and tragic situation. I hope she will accept the help she needs and will do well. I know you hearts have to be breaking. Sometimes extreme measures are needed. Hang in there. Best of luck in the contest.
Jeannie
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raw emotion
Grannyeri: I can really under this piece,both of my sons suffer from it ....my older son is a grown man with children of his own now...my youger son and youngest child is 20 years old and will graduate this year ,hopefully...loved this..DEE
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Dearest Erika,
I know this pains your heart as it is evident that you dearly love this granddaughter, as I am more than sure all of your other Grandchildren. To be departed from a child or grandchild on a holiday is hard to bear. I too will suffer being away from my son on Christmas this year. We have spoken regarding those circumstances.
I will keep you and your family in my thoughts and prayers. Maybe this lesson will be one that creates an awareness in your granddaughter; one that will cause her to see the seriousness of not following her doctors orders. I am sure she is a sweetheart when on her medication. Hold-fast to the fact that she has to know how much you ALL love her.
My goodness is life ever filled with heartache. The brighter side is; this may be the very thing that opens her eyes. I pray it does.
You have penned a very personal occurrence here. Bless you for being able to write your feelings out so honestly. I wish you the best in this contest and having some of the things you've worked so hard for come to light.
Much Love ♥
Renee
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Powerful!
With all the punch this one has it's sure to get attention.
Good job
~Ron~
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ODD is a form of anti-social disorder, and the fact that she's a nigh-sociopath is pretty scary. Still, I understand this, I have dealt with many children who have problems such as ODD. Christmas isn't my favorite time of year though, I think your first line smacks the reader though. Like it sets us up immediately for what is to happen, I like things to gently unfold, but that's just my perception.
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Oh I'm so sorry Granny. I'm sure it is breaking your heart to see her this way.So many young people have this same problem. I have a couple of nephews that have it too. And yes, prayer does change everything! GBY
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I am so sorry to hear that. I know what ADHD is. A few of my students have that but take medication. What exactly is ODD? I am not familiar with that one. I hope your granddaughter comes home. I hope she can get in control of herself.
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This is so sad
So uppestting things like this happen
It was painful to read on a topic I didn't really know existed
it was put well so you could feel the emotions in little slices of stanzas
I liked it though it must be painful
And not the same
I hope everything is ok...
Love as always
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i am so sorry to hear about your granddaughter, i hope she gets well soon and back home with her family. such a sad time for you and your family. this is a well written piece, and it is so very touching. manyblessings2u and yours always.
joyce
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This is such a REAL poem...full of personal thought and reflection...the story behind this is a sad one. My heart goes out to you and your family. I have a daughter with this disorder myself...and I have it as well....I do understand from where you are coming and how difficult things can be for a family dealing with this type of situation.
God bless you and may she be safe and well.
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i always love reading your thoughts on life.
I've gotta tell you. I really do very much love dropping in to read some of what I believe, to be the finest display of a soul whom knows so much kindness it truly makes the heart melt!! And I mean that!! You not only have a way with words, thoughts and expressions, but the way a soul views our world. Very rare.
Again, for me, I'd say most of what your feelings write. Very, very publishable!!!
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Oh Good Lord I think we have talked about this before as my son suffers with ADHD he has a bad case of it too Oh this so scares me I hope and pray your granddaughter will be okay and I pray everyday for my son just last night he pulled out his bebe gun and he said he thought it has empty but it wasn't and he shot one of his friends in his hand oh dear Lord a brave write and I wish you all the best oh dear Lord this is so close to home for me...
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Dear Erika, this piece of poetry is for me beyond the usual premise of seeking to critique,it's heart-felt personal content touched me deeply.There are more than enough challenges in life without being challenged by one's self as is the individual with the conditions mentioned within this piece.
Sometimes we have no option but to do the best for those we love even when they feel it is the worst for them,love is many things but one thing is certain,it isn't easy.
I feel for you and your family and your grand daughter who has this vortex of confusion,emotion and inexplicable notions,I imagine her desperately trying to understand and then losing the tangent of thought as it jettisons off with the added challenge of short attention span.
I would suggest searching the net for all available info,support networks and looking into any possible contra indications of the medication.Some research points to fish oils being benefecial,either included within the diet ot taken as a supplement.
I have worked with and have had relatives and friends with children with challenging behaviour and or ADHD,I understand how perplexed,battleweary and isolated these behaviours make one feel.
I sincerely hope that in the fullness of time your grand daughter finds peace within herself and as a result your family have peace of mind.Letters,emails,poems,phone calls and being constant in support of her will maintain the bridge of hope and love.
I am not going to wish you luck in the contest and a trophy,rather all the luck with this heart-felt personal dilemma and the trophy of your grand daughter well and your family re united harmoniously.
Many blessings,love and light,Yvette
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Very Good!
A topic I am familiar with...the frustrations and sadness that come with this behavioral condition...Parents and grandparents do what they can, but as yet they do not have the answers....I feel pain and disappointment.The poets' Christmas and lfe has been affected...But there is always hope,through prayer!
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