Remember happy times
If choice were mine to have you back once more,
I would not wish to cause you pain my son
to have you live the life you knew before
of pain and sorrow ‘til your time was done.
So set you free from life on earth I must
to join the angels high above in play
where, safely kept within their arms, I trust
you’ve found a haven and a home to stay.
I see your smiling face as you look down
“I’m happy Mum.” you whisper close to me
“So smile and laugh nor ever wear a frown…
I never knew this beauty that I see.
“The joy as loved ones past have come to meet
me here, the look of love upon each face,
the hugs, the smiles; my bliss is now complete.
New life begins here in this heavenly place.
“This tranquil feeling’s quite beyond belief;
the sky is blue and colours bright surround;
so weep no more that my time was too brief
remember happy times that did abound.”
Joan Benecke 9-19-2006
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In memory of my Son
Brian Benecke Feb 28 1968--Aug 23 2006
Aged 38
Written September 19th, 2006
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Oh how very beautiful
Such faith and belief is surely a blessing for you. I too believe in a life after this one.
Bless you
Non
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oh aj. this is a heart wrenching write. les is here with me we are reading your poems for brian together... well i'm reading them too him lol.
love you
Til
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Love you both
Thank you Til, it's his birthday next wednesday the 28th and we're having a few friends over to help celebrate it. I'm gonna buy a can of VB packet of Winfield blue and a can of Jim Bean and we'll sit near his garden and celebrate with him as I know Brian will be there with me.
Love AJ
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I'm so sorry to hear about your son's passing Angelica, I didn't know of his passing. I pass on all the love I hold, for there is nothing more tragic for a mother than the loss of one of her children, with that I can be honest. I hope time finds you healing somewhat, and know that I will think about you often.... with love
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Thank you Karen for your kind words. I never knew the pain of losing a child until I lost Brian. It's been three months now and I never stop missing him every day. But life has to go on and he'll always be in my heart.
Love Joan
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Thanks Anne, both Hugh and I are looking forward to meeting you, it's going to be great!
See you then.
Love Joan
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Dear Joan
I've returned to read your poems for Brian once again. They are truly beautiful. Although they make me feel sad that a young life has gone all too soon we wouldn't wish for continued trials and pain. I wish you and the rest of your family all the best and look forward to giving you a hug in person soon.
Love & Hugs
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Hi Sam, Yes, we do our grieving, then we move on with our lives as best we can, but they're always in our hearts,
Thank you my angel for your lovely comment.
Love Joan
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Joan, this was absolutely beautiful. The soul of a greieving mothers heart weaved through each and every word. When I miss my daddy, I think about where he is and know he wouldn't come back if he could....for he is with the Father....
This was really awesome.
God Bless
Sam
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Dear Tommy, Thank you for your kind words, yes, I am beginning to heal, but it's so hard to lose ones child, until we experience the loss it's beyond comprehension on how devastating it is. I know he's safe now, that's my one consolation as Brian has not had a happy life and I used to worry what would happen to him when Bob and I were gone, I guess this is God's way of easing my fears. The only other hard thing is our Cardiologist told us today that we could lose our other three children if they don't have themselves checked out. Our two daughters are but our other son is in denial and he is the one with the biggest risk.
I'm sorry to hear that you have your own pain to deal with, I hope you feel better soon.
Peace to you too Tommy
Hugs Joan
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Wonderful Poem!
Hi Joan,
This is a beautiful page you've done for your son. I can
see the healing begin. Though our loved ones do leave this
side of life we know the most, if we keep them fondly in
our memory, they are truly not too far from us. I think
when you see the situation like that, then you realize
those we love have not completely departed. I believe
in God with every fiber of my being. It's more than a
confession of belief, it is the reality of my existence
and I'm firmly convinced there is more to know once we
have to leave this state of awareness we've become
accustomed to. I can also see all around what faith or
doubt does in all of our lives. Some would call strange
incidents as coincidence buy I know better for if you
seek miracles in life, I for one believe you will find
them and to know that makes many people less afraid of
the unknown for death is scarry but confidence in God
should ease the minds of most of us that would worry.
Some people stake their whole lives on faith with every
facet of living. Every day because of my own faith, I
find possibility for change and with what went on in
my marriage and the troubles we've seen, you are talking
to a survivor all because my only true counsellor is from
the Bible. Faith is in believing in doing the impossible
and when you get used to the challenge, you conquer things
other people can only dream of. The more I apply these
principles, the stronger I stand on them.
This is a lovely tribute. It's good to write poems to your
son for that keeps his memory alive and when we do that,
with those who've left us they remain a part of who we are
as long as we are here. Keep up the good work. Peace to
you my friend.
Tommy
Sorry I've been absent often here, I'm
dealing with some great pain lately medically speaking.
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Dear Bea,
Don't you DARE change a WORD of what you have written.
I find no fault in that or any other line. I read the emphasis on "my" rather than "time".
Love and hugs, XXX Hugh. -
Thanks sweetpea, will work on it.
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Great!
These are very comforting words, Joan, and a blessing to anyone who has suffered a loss. Your grasp of iambic meter is excellent throughout except the second last line (though that could have been intentional). The message of hope outweighs the form. Great poem.
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Thanks Yem, just by my friends being here helps me, I'm fine but Bob is finding it hard to accept as they spent a lot of time together since Christmas, we have to keep an eye on him.
But Brian is happy now, he had a lot of setbacks while he was alive. Thank you Yem, I appreciate your kind words.
Hugs Joan
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I don't have words that can be of any use to you. You've heard it all before, I just want to say I'm sorry and that your poem shows your love for Brian.
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Dear AJ, I too feel that Brian has helped you write this, and knowing his great sense of humour I can just see him laughing as they chased the light. Lovely poem AJ
Love Jen,
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Dear Bea,
That strunning picture is rather reminiscent of our Milford Sound with its Mitre Peak and Sutherland Falls and I can well imagine it as a part of Heaven.
Having been appraised from you, over the years, of the trials and tribulations that Brian endured in his life after he left his parents' care, I think that the words you express on his behalf have surely come to you from him. Such inspirations do not come into our heads without direction and, if Brian wanted to impart a message, who better to receive it than the mother who he knew loved him in spite of all?
Yes, dear Bea, you would not wish to keep him back in the hard life he was living and perhaps, it is the greatest test of a parent's love when they must let one of their children go from this earth to the world of spirit.
You have expressed your thoughts in a most beautiful manner and with a skilful technique.
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Dear Pixie,
Thank you my sweet Angel, Brian is with loved one now crossed over. I'll look for more signs from him and I know he's around playing tricks on us and our cat's, he had a laser light that he used to tease them with, and some nights it's as though he's still teasing them with it because they're definitely chasing something. And I know he's happy where he is, he looks down at me from my PC desk with that cheeky grin of his.
Love AAAJ
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A beautiful tribute to Brian
This picture is so beautiful and if I imagined heaven I might imagine just such beauty. I wonder if parts of heaven do look like your picture... I feel and would like to believe does. This is a beautiful tribute to your son, Brian. Sounds like he had a hard life yet is with loved ones who have gone before him and at peace now. I do believe what you have in quotes is a message from Brian and inspired... I think my loved ones who have passed are here with me spiritually too.
Keep your eyes open because I just prayed for you to have a definite sign from Brian that you know is from him. Something as unusual as chocolate on pancakes that you just know a heavenly sign. Like 100 yellow chrysanthemums that bloomed on my mother's birthday that appeared out of nowhere when I ask God for a sign. Plant had never bloomed in 19 months and bloomed for the first time then.
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