Due to the sudden death of my youngest Son Brian I will not be on AP for a few days.
Brian was missing for two days, we last saw him on Wednesday the 23rd August,2006 when he came to our home and told us he had a chest infection and that he had pains in his chest and in his left arm, as there is a flu virus going around that's all he thought it was.
He went to the Doctors and he gave him some anti biotics. He lives in a Granny flat at the back of his friends place who was away at the time. After arriving home yesterday he rang us saying Brian was missing as he tried to contact him all day, his cell phone, wallet, cigarettes were all in his room beside his bed, but no sign of Brian.
We rang around to his mates and nobody had seen him, we even reported him missing to the police. Then we got a phone call from his mate to go back to his house as the cleaning lady had found someone in bed in his spare room, it was Brian and he was lying as though he was asleep, but he had died in his sleep. He was 38.
They will be doing an Autopsy on him so we don't know yet when we can make the funeral arrangements.
He is safe now and with his Grandparents and all who've gone before him.
He is not gone, he's just asleep.
God has him in his keeping.
Brian Benecke 1968-2006
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My 9 year old Grandson joined himself up in AP and he wrote a poem for his Uncle Brian all by himself
allpoetry.com/poem/2200515
I would like to thank everyone who's passed by here and read and commented. I thank you all for your condolences, we have no news from the Coroner as to when the autopsy will be held or when Brian will be released into our care so we can have closure. angelica
UPDATE. Brians funeral is on Thursday Aug 31st 11.30 Sydney Australia time.
The funeral went well, Autopsy report showed he died of Coronery artery disease.
Written August 25th, 2006
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Thanks Chris, I appreciate your kind words, it's hard losing one of your children, it's not supposed to happen that way. But I know now that he's safe, he led a lonely life through his own choice but still had many friends from kindergarten that he visited often, his funeral was standing room only.And his mates and his brother were pall bearers. I'm fine my friend, life has to go on and he's around me often which makes me happy. He says he's happy now and with family.
Love Joan
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I'm so sorry. When you mentioned that he had passed away I was shocked and saddened, but reading the details makes it all the sadder. My thoughts and prayers go out to you
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Dear Chrissy, I too am a great believer that our loved ones are around us, my Son has already visited me and left me a message, at times I get a whiff of his smell, he was also with both his Sisters as they travelled back to the country after his funeral. Sharon left first to drive a 12 hour drive, stopping overnight at a friends house half way, on the last 2 hours of reaching home she was tired and sick with the flu and she felt Brian with her until she reached home. The next day his other Sister Julie travelled 3 hours home, but went through a very severe hailstorm, something told her to pull over to the side, the car behind her whizzed past and was involved in an accident, she too felt Brian was there helping her to get home safe.
I'm sorry to hear about your Brother, my children I've been told are at risk as the heart disease has come through 3 generations that we know of, it could also affect our Grandchildren and great grandchildren, plus other generations.
Thank you for your kind thoughts I really appreciate them.
Love and hugs
Joan
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I am so sorry to hear this. I didn't know anything of it, until I saw a comment earlier.
I know this feeling all too well, as in 1996, a week before Christmas, my brother, Mike passed away in his sleep in exactly the same way. He was 36 years old. He had been so healthy (or so we all thought), playing cricket and football etc. He had never smoked a cigarette in his life, and he looked after himself well.
It was such a terrible shock to us all.
It turned out that some members of our family, myself included, have this same heart 'problem' (but the problem itself hasn't changed our lives - we don't allow it to!)
I just wanted to say to you, that we have had various signs that Mike is still 'with us' in a variety of ways - some comical, some to people who did not believe, but have to do so now, because the proof has been so definate!
Your beautiful son will always be with you, never doubt it.
I send you my thoughts, healing and love. No words can change the way you must be feeling, but hopefully knowing that those around you are with you spiritually will help to ease the pain.
Much Love, Always,
Chrissie
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Joan, my dear freind I am so very sorry to hear of your loss. Indeed he is sleeping and I know watching over you with the angels. Though I am so very far from you, please know if there is anything I can do...I am here. Much love and blessings, Gypsy
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Dear Bea,
You know that I am with you in spirit and that you are constantly in my thoughts.
As I already expressed my feelings to you, I have posted them in verse: allpoetry.com/Poem/2204139
Love and hugs, XXX Hugh. -
I LOVE YOU TOO Criss. I know that you know what it's like to lose a child. I'm fine sweetheart.
Love Joan
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My Beautiful Joan,
I am hearbroken to hear that you have lost one of you beloved sons. I have no words except I LOVE YOU. I LOVE YOU. I LOVE YOU. You are in my heart always Beautiful. My prayers are with you and your family during your time of grieving and always.
with love from your heart to mine,
Criss
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So sorry for your loss, I am sure it is devastating and unbelievable. So young he was. May God's power comfort you in this time.
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Dear Joan, I'm so sorry to hear about the passing of Brian, he is one cousin I'm going to miss terribly, he was such a great guy. I'm sorry I can't come up for the Funeral, other commitments prevent it. I will be there in spirit with all of you.
Love Jen.
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Oh my Angy,I am so sorry for your lost,He is in a better place now..My deepest sympathy goes to you and yours..My prayers for you, your lost one and all your family..Please take care of yourself..Hope to hear from you soon
AJ -
My sincere condolences
I'm in shock since Brian was only 38. Oh my...my heart has sunk to me feet. I feel so helpless at what to do or say to help. My condolences and sincere heartfelt sympathies... -
Bless your heart, I am so sorry to hear about your loss. Take comfort knowing he and Repo are watching over you and swapping wonderful stories. Take care and God Bless. Steve
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My Darling Renee, thank you my sweet. Brian is safe now, he was a very lost soul, I used to worry about what will happen to him once Bob and I went< I guess this is the way it was meant to be, that he would be taken home and cared for before us. I am fine Darling, sad as he was my Baby, we just thank God he was found in a safe place and not in the street somewhere as he was on his push bike when we saw him on Wednesday. Bob and his siblings are devastated.
Love you my Angel. We may be separated by water but not by spirit. I received you hug my darling.
Love Joan
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Dearest Joan,
I had you on my mind so much today that I decided to log on this late at night. (1:59 AM) I felt you. I just thought I was feeling you because it was time for me to stop by your page with warm greetings of love.
My heart mourns for you and your family. Please accept my condolences in all sincerity. I am so sorry Joan.
Yes, he is with his grandparents, and family members that have passed over before him. They welcome him with open arms. Please also know that you, and your family will remain in my prayers. I pray the Lord above comforts you.
You son is/was a fine mixture of you and Bob. Oh my dear friend, my tears won't cease. You have been such a blessing in my life since I've been on this site. You are so deeply embedded in my heart that I feel pain even thinking of such a loss.
Please know that I love you Joan. I know I am across the waters but I am sending a giant hug, and many angels to be there with you. Please let your family know that I send my sympathies. I don't know what else to say except; *I LOVE YOU, ALL OF YOU!
Always,
Renee 
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Dear Angelica,
Brian looks to be a young man who had a good head on his shoulders, feet well grounded, but a heart that is loving, and a knowledge of living life to its fullest. A handsome young man.
With all I hold dear I pray that you hear God's whisper in your ear. His whisper of love and promise that Brian is at peace. May you as you lay your head to your pillow feel His kiss upon your forehead, feel His love in your heart and His thanks for keeping him safe and loved until it was time to go Home. There are no words that I could offer that will take away your grief. But what I can offer and promise that it will be there, is a shoulder to lean on, an ear to listen with. Always,
Angelica, I found this poem many years ago in a card I sent to my sister-in-law. I had bought the last one so I wrote the words down. For me, when I have gone through the loss of a loved one I have found some measure of solice. I hope that you may find some too. Maybe not today, but should you read it at sometime in the future, there may be small measure of it for you.
THE ROSE BEYOND THE WALL
Near shady wall a rose once grew,
Budded and blossomed in God's free light,
Watered and fed by morning dew,
shedding its sweetness day and night.
As it grew and blossomed fair and tall,
Slowly rising to loftier height,
It came to a crevice in the wall
Through which there shone
a beam of light.
Onward it crept with added strength
With never a thought of fear or pride,
It followed the light
through the crevice's length
And unfolded itself on the other side.
The light, the dew, the broadening view
Were found the same as they were before,
And lost itself in beauties new,
Breathing its fragrance more and more.
Shall claim of death cause us to grieve
And make our courage faint and fall?
Nay! Let us faith and hope receive
The rose still grows beyond the wall,
Scattering fragrance far and wide
just as it did in days of yore,
just as it did on the other side,
just as it will forevermore.
Annonymous
With much love always,
~Michelle~
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Oh I am so sorry...such a sad thing for someone so young. My thoughts are with you and I hope you can start to heal. My deepest sympathy in a painful time, I hope you have people there that you can be with and feel love and support.
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My deepest and heartfelt condolences to you
and your family. I will be praying for you
and wish you all of the best! Know that you
are in my heart and prayers.
God bless you!
Allen0826 -
prayers for u hun
ooooooooo aww I am so very sorry for your heartbreaking news
I don't know what to say expect I am sorry
Kari -
gosh.. i wish i knew what to say.
Not too long ago i lost my aunt. She past away soon after her 23 year old son. I can't say i know how you feel. But it seems like you are holding strong. yes, he is with god now, and safe.
My condolances to you and your family. Such loses are hard to deal with. my heart and thoughts are with you... -
Sweet Joan-
I am deeply saddened by the news and wish to give You and your Family my deepest condolences...
You are Loved my Friend and always appreciated!!
Always~~
and much love~ Desire~*~
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I PRAY FOR YOU & YOURS AT THIS TIME. MAY YOU FIND PEACE KNOWING HE IS IN A MUCH BETTER PLACE.
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My condolances to you and your family. Death can be a hard thing to deal with, more so when it is untimly as this but there is always a rainbow after the storm. You just have to look for it.
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My deepest condolences on your loss. You do not know me, but my youngest son's name is also Brian and your words just stopped my heart. It is tragic to lose a child, but family and God can help you through. My thoughts are with you.
Rous -
I feel so sorry for you. I'm glad that you see the good in so mch sadness. Best of wish I hope you feel better soon.
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i got a chill as i read this and he is allright now i will pray for him and will have the church pray forhim tomorrow
love and prayers
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Dear Joan,
I've always known you to be a gentle, generous and caring individual and I am sure your son shared those traits. Please, lean on your friends here in this heartbreaking time and even if we are at a loss for just the right words, know we are all sending you our hearts and our hugs. May you find your way just as you have helped so many others find theirs.
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Oh dearest Joan - no mere words can possibly carry the feelings in my heart for you and your family today.
Your wonderful Angels will care for him for you until you meet with him again.
Please accept my dearest condolences on your dear son's passing.
Bless you all
Von -
I'm so very sorry for the devastating loss of your son..nothing will stop you from feeling the deep deep loss and the pain but just know that although his time here on earth was far too short i'm certain the love of his family and friends enveloped him and carried him peacefully to his eternal heavenly home. Try to look on it as a continuation and not an end...
My heart aches for you and your family. Again I'm so very sorry,
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My Dear Joan,
I've just learned the sad news, from Hugh. I'm so sorry, I know that losing a child, no matter the age or the reason, has got to be one of the worst things in the world. We can only comfort ourselves in the knowledge that he's in God's hands now, an excellent place to be.
My heart goes out to you and your family, Joan, my deepest and heartfelt sympathy is sent your way.
Much love and big
baraka bashad
Dee
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Dear Joan,
Please accept my deepest sympathies for your tragic loss
Wishing you and your family peace and consolation in this sad time.
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Dear Bea,
Edna and I offer our deepest sympathy to you, Bob, Shaz, Julie and the rest of your family in this sudden loss.
Be comforted in the faith and knowledge that Brian is now free of cares and troubles and is in God's Hands. R.I.P.
With love and hugs, XXX Hugh.
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Dearest Angelica,
Please accept my condolances on the passing of yor beloved son. I cannot imagine the heaartbreak of losing son but my heart goes out to you and your family at this time.
He will always live on in your hearts.
kindest regards
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I am deeply sorry to hear about the loss of your dear son Brain. It must be tearing you appart. I know you to be a very dear adn sweet person and I know Brian must have been equally as special as he will forever be appart of you.
If there is anyting I can do please let em know.
Your friend
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Angelica,
I am so sorry to hear this news. I can't image the courage it must have taken for you to write this to keep us all informed. You know you have a web of support here and if there is anything I can do please let me know. I know an encouraging word sometimes helps.
I am sure Brian is an angel in Heaven with God and as you said safe with his Grandparents, family and friends. I will keep you in prayers that you find the strength to get through this.
Melissa ( I wish I could give you a real one
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Dear Joan
I am so sorry to hear of the death of your son. It seems so unfair. Please accept my deepest sympathy and know that I am thinking of you.
Love & Hugs
Anne
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