The no-cry sleep solution
This is one of the many baby books Tara and I have checked out of the library. It has some interest ideas in it, which I'll blog about below so I can remember them when they're useful for my child eventually 
Kids are trained, just like animals, just like adults. If they always fall asleep on the breast, they'll always only want to fall asleep on the best.
Routines are very important. As tara's aunt put it, bath brush book bed. Or as the book puts it more specifically (she's big with log-keeping and stuff too... I guess we might try it if we struggle). put on pajamas, snack, brush teeth, read 3 books, get water, go potty, turn on night-light, kisses, hugs, back rub., kid to bed, parents to bed. You can make a poster and put it on their wall.
When breastfeeding at night, always detach as baby gets sleepy, not has fallen asleep. Use a finger to break the seal, then set them down to fall asleep by themselves. They may wake up and root again, then feed them again, but repeat the detach-before-sleeping routine.
Keep logs of naps, their length, sleepy-times, bedtime sleep and # of night awakenings and for what reason. Notice progress. Look for signs of fatigue. Keep daytime naps to 1.5-2 hours. Put baby to sleep pretty early, but try to get an idea of when baby gets tired, especially when starting to try sleeping through the night.
Make night sleeping different from day naps. Day naps have light in room and noises remotely. Night sleeping, try to assure them that its "nite nite". No talking other than that. No lights at night, nightlight only. Change only soiled or very wet diapers. Quick diaper changes with warm wipes if necessary. No activity toys near or in bed. A stuffed animal as a "lovey" is good though. Keep your "smell" in the crib, either keep the sheet in your bed or nightshirt for awhile, or something like that.
Weaning from night-time: have dad sleep in next room and comfort baby when it wakes up, but no mommy.
Key words like "nite nite" are good to repeat as they're going to sleep and when you wake to comfort them in the night. Don't use them when baby is already crying or unhappy or they'll associate them with this state. Much of her suggestions are along these lines - be careful with and use the power of association. Musical night-night queues could work too, as a part of the bedtime routine.
Babies making noises aren't always awake. Wait for them to really show they're hungry before doing a night feeding. Give them a chance to go back to sleep if they're just rustling or making a short cry. Learn to tell the difference between night-noises and a real cry. Ideally still help them before a 'real cry' becomes a 'loud cry'.
A baby who always sleeps in your arms will always want to sleep in your arms.
Adjusting baby to not sleeping with parents. Having crib next to bed. Then across room. Then in next room. Can have parent sleeping next to it in next room for awhile. Let baby fall asleep with your hand on it while its in the bed.
Kids are trained, just like animals, just like adults. If they always fall asleep on the breast, they'll always only want to fall asleep on the best.
Routines are very important. As tara's aunt put it, bath brush book bed. Or as the book puts it more specifically (she's big with log-keeping and stuff too... I guess we might try it if we struggle). put on pajamas, snack, brush teeth, read 3 books, get water, go potty, turn on night-light, kisses, hugs, back rub., kid to bed, parents to bed. You can make a poster and put it on their wall.
When breastfeeding at night, always detach as baby gets sleepy, not has fallen asleep. Use a finger to break the seal, then set them down to fall asleep by themselves. They may wake up and root again, then feed them again, but repeat the detach-before-sleeping routine.
Keep logs of naps, their length, sleepy-times, bedtime sleep and # of night awakenings and for what reason. Notice progress. Look for signs of fatigue. Keep daytime naps to 1.5-2 hours. Put baby to sleep pretty early, but try to get an idea of when baby gets tired, especially when starting to try sleeping through the night.
Make night sleeping different from day naps. Day naps have light in room and noises remotely. Night sleeping, try to assure them that its "nite nite". No talking other than that. No lights at night, nightlight only. Change only soiled or very wet diapers. Quick diaper changes with warm wipes if necessary. No activity toys near or in bed. A stuffed animal as a "lovey" is good though. Keep your "smell" in the crib, either keep the sheet in your bed or nightshirt for awhile, or something like that.
Weaning from night-time: have dad sleep in next room and comfort baby when it wakes up, but no mommy.
Key words like "nite nite" are good to repeat as they're going to sleep and when you wake to comfort them in the night. Don't use them when baby is already crying or unhappy or they'll associate them with this state. Much of her suggestions are along these lines - be careful with and use the power of association. Musical night-night queues could work too, as a part of the bedtime routine.
Babies making noises aren't always awake. Wait for them to really show they're hungry before doing a night feeding. Give them a chance to go back to sleep if they're just rustling or making a short cry. Learn to tell the difference between night-noises and a real cry. Ideally still help them before a 'real cry' becomes a 'loud cry'.
A baby who always sleeps in your arms will always want to sleep in your arms.
Adjusting baby to not sleeping with parents. Having crib next to bed. Then across room. Then in next room. Can have parent sleeping next to it in next room for awhile. Let baby fall asleep with your hand on it while its in the bed.