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My thoughts 1-18-09

I was looking for a way to vent the feelings, and things that are going on in my life. There are so many things happening right now that I cant explain. For one I am having a lot of sad dampers on my college plans....I dont know if I will be able to afford it. Also another thing is right now my dad is having a mid-life crisis, and is trying with all of his power to keep me from becoming a man. Also, I really like this girl, and I am so frightened to even mention the word relationship to her. Someone help me; I am all alone, and need some advice badly!

 

-Adam

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  • Kal-El
    January 19
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    I was thinking about the advice that I can give to you to help you but then I just remember that all the problems that I faced in my life I was able somehow to face it and I was thinking why and believe me I've been through a lot however the answer was really obvious because the things that I call problems and I find truly hard to face I've discovered that they are only challenges for me to go through to become stronger so what you have to do is to sit relax and think about each situation that you are facing and see how you can solve it like you don't have money it's easy just get a job or ask for a help from someone you trust about your father well there's many ways to face this you can avoid him or just face him and tell him what you really feel or even you can come up with something else that you believe will be the way to solve this problem but my friend while doing all this what you really have to do is to believe and have faith in yourself and just remember that there's a lot of people that loves you and would gladly help you and believe me I'm ready to help you with your money issues if I can since I know how much college is important I may help you as much as I can since I'm also a college guy and where I live college are really expensive but I'll try and by the way no matter what your father is trying to do to keep you from being a man you can take advantage on this I mean if he don't want you to become a man you can use this for your own good and makes him feel that you need his help and you still his little boy and you can take money from him for your college believe me I did it and it worked and truly my dad paid for the whole year and after doing this he found out that he can't pay for me anymore and just give me a lot of space what helped me to be a man an independent person and it was good I hit two birds in one stone so believe me just think about all your problems and think in the best way to face it and don't take any advice from someone because you see the advice that they are giving to you may not work for you since they don't have your parent and they don't have your problems and most important they are not you.


  • XXWolfOfInsanityxX
    January 18
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    I am really about the college thing don't give up. Maybe you can try to find a job or something that can give you some money to save up for it. Or try to ask your mother for some help or other relatives in the family. I'm sorry about your father I hope he gets better. He's prayers are with me. He should let you be a man. He shouldn't stop you from becoming a gentlemen that's not right and what good would that do? nothing. Because if he doesn't let you become a man you won't know how to treat a lady or anything. So I think he shouldn't tell you what you can and can't be you can be anything you want to be. The girl you like is going through some hard things in life at the moment as well. She really nervous and scared about a few things. You are never alone remember that. and I will always be here for you no matter what

    - Star Crossed Lovers ♥


  • Nocturne
    January 18

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    Well, let's see. I'm not sure if I can offer any real advice because I really don't know what's going on in your life - no stranger ever will, but here are some thoughts:

    I have a friend who literally started over in life with nothing - no apt, no family, no money, nothing. He worked two part time jobs and went to college - a community college. After a year or so of top grades, he got into a top 50 university with a full scholarship. The inspiration from that is, if you want it and you sink your teeth into a dream, you'll get it.

    For the dad issues, yeah, it always feels parents are muzzling, stifling, pressuring you. It all comes down to the fact that you're you, and only you can make or unmake who you are. Sure people have some control over what you can or can't do, when you go places, how late you stay out, but come on, those are surface things! What you are, what you think - that's you, not them.

    As for the girl, ask yourself, would it be worse to ask and maybe get a no, or would it be worse to never mention it to her and always wonder if you've missed that 'yeah, you're kinda nice too. I like you'?

    For me, it has always been the last that's worse. Pick your poison.

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