Hate, like love, is an emotion that has to be fed, nurtured, or it dies. If you don't think of them often enough, you don't feel either emotion towards them.
Forgiveness is something that has to be earned. Trust also has to be earned not forced. If there is no trust there is no love for how can there be if secrets are staying hidden.1
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"If wishes were horses, even beggers would ride them" 3
