I just got married… but before you get too into the congratulations stage I think I’d better tell you a few things. Why I need a contest poem.
I married the love of my life May 22nd. (If you want to know more about Joe read some of my poetry) Trust me I know how lucky I am to have him; I know that asking for or wanting more seems greedy; but right now I feel so mad at God and life. CHEATED.
My Husband had back surgery 6 weeks ago and it didn’t go well. We have an appointment with a neurologist Thursday so hopefully we will finally find out why he is still in so much pain. For weeks we begged the surgeon who did the surgery to find out why he was still in so much pain and to do something to help, so we could enjoy our honeymoon. Two days after our Wedding we finally gave up and went to the emergency room… That was the highlight of our honeymoon. The doctors strongly suggested that we cancel any other honeymoon plans until we had approval from the surgeon, or a neurologist. So much for Vegas, the Grand Canyon, Utah, Colorado and Joe’s nieces wedding. Even if it hadn’t been too much of a chance to take with Joe’s health, What’s the use of seeing all those places through a haze of pain. Neither of us would have enjoyed it. But knowing that doesn’t make it any easier to cancel all those reservations. We were lucky that most places were understanding and with a copy of doctors orders it only cost us a couple of hundred dollars not to have a honeymoon.
I really am trying to hold on to the fact that the ceremony was beautiful and that I married such a wonderful man, but I’ll have to admit I feel so helpless and angry right now that it’s hard.
Write me a poem that helps me feel better. It can be one about my love for Joe; or one that shows me how my Love for Joe and my poetry about that love has touched you.
Do you think you’re up to the challenge? I’m giving 500 points to the winner; and I’ll try to comment on every entry; medical problems permitting.
Good Luck
Patricia Gibson-Williams
I married the love of my life May 22nd. (If you want to know more about Joe read some of my poetry) Trust me I know how lucky I am to have him; I know that asking for or wanting more seems greedy; but right now I feel so mad at God and life. CHEATED.
My Husband had back surgery 6 weeks ago and it didn’t go well. We have an appointment with a neurologist Thursday so hopefully we will finally find out why he is still in so much pain. For weeks we begged the surgeon who did the surgery to find out why he was still in so much pain and to do something to help, so we could enjoy our honeymoon. Two days after our Wedding we finally gave up and went to the emergency room… That was the highlight of our honeymoon. The doctors strongly suggested that we cancel any other honeymoon plans until we had approval from the surgeon, or a neurologist. So much for Vegas, the Grand Canyon, Utah, Colorado and Joe’s nieces wedding. Even if it hadn’t been too much of a chance to take with Joe’s health, What’s the use of seeing all those places through a haze of pain. Neither of us would have enjoyed it. But knowing that doesn’t make it any easier to cancel all those reservations. We were lucky that most places were understanding and with a copy of doctors orders it only cost us a couple of hundred dollars not to have a honeymoon.
I really am trying to hold on to the fact that the ceremony was beautiful and that I married such a wonderful man, but I’ll have to admit I feel so helpless and angry right now that it’s hard.
Write me a poem that helps me feel better. It can be one about my love for Joe; or one that shows me how my Love for Joe and my poetry about that love has touched you.
Do you think you’re up to the challenge? I’m giving 500 points to the winner; and I’ll try to comment on every entry; medical problems permitting.
Good Luck
Patricia Gibson-Williams
Contest is Over
- Contest was judged on July 3, 2004
- Rewards: Gold: 500
- Final notes: It was hard to judge this some of you were so close and every poem was special to me because it showed that other cared enough to try and cheer me up. I wanted to give honorable mentions, but I couldn’t narrow it down to just a few. Many of the poems that weren’t chosen were great, the just didn’t give me what I was looking for at this time. Thank you again everyone for entering. ~ Patti ~
I have my comments on all the poems done, but it's late so I'll post them tomorrow.
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but perfect would feel lonely
so very lonely without youby SacredRose 39 lines, 5 comments, on Jun 12 10:31 PM 2004. In Love• Commented on by judge. -
Seldom does real love enter ones life,
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I shall seek the Angels
Who gave me my loveby Lady Silver Dragon 56 lines, 2 comments, on Jun 23 12:59 PM 2004. In Humor• Commented on by judge. -
Many challenges were presented before you,
yet love over came all, you trumped a winner.• Commented on by judge. -
Reasons are cheap
Reasons are worthlessby clamchoder 32 lines, 7 comments, on Jun 23 6:23 PM 2004. In Hope• Commented on by judge.
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Soooooo sad!! :( :(
WOW, what a awful experience you and your new husband have gone through!!! I would certainly ditch the so called friend---sorry,just my opinion---friends don't down talk friends to relatives ect if they are a true friend they are there to help to make sure especially to make your wedding day go well and they therself take on everything stressful so that you the bride and groom have a wonderful wedding day!! My heart sure goes out to you and your husband and I wish you and him the best!!! Wow, I am in ???? about how a good friend can do this!! I will give someone here @ AP a im to include your husband in prayer for his back and surgeries ahead. -
can it be about how crappy my wedding was? maybe that would cheer you up lol. oh, btw I married a guy by the last name of Williams too hehe.
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oi vey, what a load of whiney shit.
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ed, that wasn't very diplomatic. maybe something like this would be better:
"I can understand your hurt and anger at this but there are people in the world who have to live with pain every day. most of them could not even afford to make those kinds of reservations in the first place. as for your 'friend', I think the reason people get angry about friends like that is becasue they feel gullible and there's no way out- you were. but being gullible doesn't make you a bad person. it's a lesson you need to learn. it sounds like you have a much easier life than a lot of people do so maybe you could consider the things you DO have and be happy about that."
now THAT'S diplomacy
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First I would like to state that it is a shame that your friend was so jealous of you and your wedding to do her best to ruin it for you. She didn't win as you are married to the greatest man in the world and the people she spoke to know your heart by now and she made a fool of herself.
MissSpunky43536 asked me to pray for you and I did. All your problems are in His hands now and expect a miracle - Joe's healing back and your healing heart.
God is blessing you!
With Christian Loce,
Dawn
A cheap buy off. It could have cost you tons more and yet she showed her colors as an enemy not friend. Although God say to forgive you do not have to forget and let her get to you and your beautiful husband again. You deserve a better friend and the good Lord will find them for you. Just put it all in His hands, He has a big heart and He will take care of it all!
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Wow, that must have been so rough. I feel for you. I personally don't believe in God- but I believe in the God and Goddess and I can tell you that you're being tested. Maybe you or your husband have a doubt about your marriage and through your perserverance in this mess you will realize the strength that your love can give you. Just make sure that you both stay strong and remember the reasons why you love him and him you. ::smiles:: The best advice I have to offer. Hope it goes well
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I had an absolutely beautiful wedding and honeymoon but my marriage is a completely different story.
Sorry you had to deal with all of that
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Ed; I'll pray that if you ever go through a hard time, that others will be there for you... no matter how lame they think your problems are.
Patti
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Ophelie: You can write about whatever you think will help. I wish I could tell you what that would be. I kind of think that something that helps me to remember that love is the most important and why I love Joe will help the most. But until I read everyone’s words I won’t know.
Patti
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Hello Fool: I wish things were as simple as that… I suppose that in many ways my life is better then a lot of others, but that doesn’t always make it easier to handle the lows. Especially when you are facing so many of them at once. However don’t assume that because I was fortunate enough to take this trip that we have a lot of money or something. I spent a lot of time searching the internet for deals and ways to put as much punch into our honeymoon as possible. (BTW: if you spend 90 minutes or so at a timeshare presentation you can often get a free room for a few nights; and skyauction.com is a great place to get a room for a week in Florida or Nevada especially) We also made our wedding date for 2 weeks before Joe’s nieces so that instead of taking two trips we could take a longer honeymoon and still share her special day. We heard it was wonderful. I’ve never seen snow, (not sure if I would have) and Joe has never seen mountains… trust me we are not world travelers. But we do have each other and I’m thankful for that. Plus there is a lot more to the story then I had time to put in here. I really do thank you for your comment, but I wanted to add a little more info. I’m also adding a general update if you want to check it out.
Thank you,
Patti
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(I thought I posted this friday, but due to computer problems (worm and virus... don't ask I don't know why norton can't get rid of them) I guess it didn't post)
I want to thank everyone for their comments and their prayers. I know we are going to need them. We just found out that Joe has to have another surgery on his back. Apparently the doctor who did the last surgery didn’t do a good enough job cleaning up and (as best they can tell from the MRI he left a bone chip) he has an infection. They say that until they do the surgery and culture the bacteria, they won’t be able to tell us how long he might need to be on an antibiotic IV, I’m just praying it’s not one of the really bad boys. His surgery is scheduled for Monday (this) morning at 9:00. I’ll do my best to read and comment on the entries I’ve received before then. I wish I could tell you how long he will be in the hospital, but the doctor can’t tell us until he sees the extent of the damage done by the infection. At this point the doctor does think he can “fix” the problems; so that gives us hope. And a doctor finally gave him a pain medication strong enough that he slept for about 6 hours straight; that was a blessing. Monday afternoon can’t come fast enough; after 5 (this will be the 6th) surgery’s in a little over a year, I’m understandably worried about the effects of another. Anastasia is dangerous and the effects are cumulative, so the risk is always greater and greater. It really hurts right now that my “friend” is not there to talk to and worry with. I haven’t heard from her at all… I’ve called her house twice, (and left a message that includes Joe’s condition) but she has never returned my call. I guess I give up on that one and thank God for the friends I have here in Texas.
Patti
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wow this sounds bad .first i would say your number one friend should be your husband ,2 even though things went bad his health and trips you shouldnt worry about them ,worry about your husband trips can always happened latter down the road ,and far as your friend i wouldnt bother with revenge cause in the end people like that always get there in the end .my advise is dont hate just stay away.other then that you shouldnt be mad at God he didnt do anything to you all this happend from free will and far as his pain knowing from father who had bad back give it time he might be 100% ever but he will be the man you love that whats matter bottom line ! good luck
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this sounds like someone needs help....didnt you say that....lol....well....i cannot write a poem like that but i must say that i hope everything goes onward and goes alright.............Love..........and peace.......Wyvern
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Well, I decided against writing a poem for you as I don't think I'm up to the task. I really don't know what collection of words would make you feel better about all this crap! I could be a real Pollyanna and say "Everything will be alright." Or I could get on my soapbox and preach about how trivial trips, honeymoons, etc. are in the grand scheme of things. But none of that will make the hurt and anger go away. I suppose only time will take care of that. All I can give you is my heart-felt sympathy that so much petty sniping and tragedy occured on what should have been the most lovely, memorable, exciting day of you and your husband's lives. My thoughts and prayers are with you both. May God richly bless the both of you and your new life together.
jill
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Just a quick note to let y'all (this is Texas) know that Joe is home and doing well. The doctors have him on IV antibotic (PICC line) twice a day for 3-4 hours each time. They tell us that he will have to be on them for at least 6 weeks. (sigh) But the infection is not one of the really bad boys. CNS -Staph. He's walking better, but still in a lot of pain. All in all, I believe that things look good. Thanks for the prayers.
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i am not going to write a somthing for this contest, but i just wanted t ogive you some advice. i know i am yound but if you will istion i will be happy. dont hod gruges. frieds are the most inpotent people in your life! talk things out with your friend and ask her why she did what she did, but do it calmly. also do not srece over you husband. i know that sounds hard but just trust in god ot make things right. things will gwt beter in time. just pray for him and for your friend.and know he dose things for a reson. i will be praying for you,your husband, and your friend. god be with you in your trobals
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wow I'm really sorry u had to deal with all that. I think I woulda punched ur best friend for u. can't believe she'd do that on ur wedding day. good luck on ur new life with Joe. I think once u get past ur friend being a bitch(no offence but it kinda sounded like she was) u'll have a pretty fun life. good luck!
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wow wat a shitty freind. Im not really good at writing poems that cheer peoplez up so ill juss write it. I hope ur husbands ok n im sr bout wats going on in ur life but hey tommorows another day n prob. its going to get better so have a awzum day!
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Im sry about what happend your friend doesn't sound like such a friend to me however my thoughts and prayers are with you
However I do want to give you a little advice though im only 16 and you probably won't listen oh well its worth a try anyway all I can tell you is to keep your faith in god praying is always the key to getting help
God Bless
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im sory i fell deeply about this i cant give you help but my thights go with you hold in there if it is not to pane fole to do so if you want to toke to a 16 year old thate cant spell warth shate i m me k by
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Oooh AngelSeeker I wish I could take all your sadness away but I am afraid that no one really can. All I can really think of to say is believe that things will get better and they eventually shall! I am sure with all the wonderful poets I am finding here you will have many MANY good piece to lift your spirits and make you smile! Keep your faith, don't let it go and many sincere blessings to you and your husband new!
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I said a prayer for you today. I prayed that you can accept everything that comes your way. Best of luck to you!!!
Maureen
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Wow, that's so sad! I'm sorry your honeymoon didn't work out. That's awful. I will try to think of something. I don't know if I could explain your friends actions. She was most definitley out of line. Perhaps I'll curse her..hmm. Well, I hope that things get much better soon!
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All I can say is that I hope that a long happy marriage to your love will more than make up for the botched wedding. Remember the wedding is just one day, and a marriage is for life.
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I wrote you a poem and hope you can understand my meaning...remember that your marriage vows include in sickness and in health ...so I didn't really address Joe's illness because I now you guys are strong enough to deal with that...I want you to know I am a very rich woman///my wealth is not of monetary value...it is measured in family and friendship...and I learned many years ago that a simple "I am sorry or I am wrong" can do wonders for the heart and soul...good luck...freda
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Awwww, you really had a rough time sweety. I dont know if i can come up with something for the contest but my heartfelt best wishes for betterment in your life. SOmetimes life just throws a stinker, but you have your hisband the man of your dreams at your side and that counts for a lot and is much more than many people have.
God bless and good wishes
Effie
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congrads nevertheless
cheer up... i can't think of anything right now to write, but buddy.. it is total tragic when the wedding doesn't go as planned and i really feel for you...
at least it didn't rain on the reception nor did the ring bearer swallow the ring, yes please look back remember the good part, you found your true love, weddings are allowed to start late, just open up the bar lol, as for bobby pins... the hair survived the ceremony and afterwards pictures? good enough, you sound like you had some back up plans to make run despite everything
weddings are supposed to be the happiest but they also are the most stressed, it's a lot of money to put together and make it go perfectly with all your friends and family watching intently, i guess your friend just freaked out last moment, i'm sure she feels just as terrible, so find a cup of tea and talk it out
the first words you wrote... you married the love of your life, what a blessing, you have them around forever to have and hold, his back will get better so you can get around to that honeymoon but take care and i'll come back and write when i got time...
keep smiling, lookit all the people who cared enough to write so far... and i wish many years of happiness, write us about your fiftieth anniversary when it comes up
cheers
phil -
I'm sorry you had such a rough day...I guess I could share a few tales for ya -
At my reception, the cake was an hour and 45 minutes late and was NOT the cake my parents paid for! Instead of hearts, pillars and TONS of pink roses on each tier, we ended up with some round stacked thing with a few roses here and there. Not to mention it tasted like sawdust! Each layer was supposed to be torted 4 times and filled with buttercream. The baker was called out of town on family emergency and failed to notify me. My stepmother promptly took in the top tier and was issued a full refund (about $250 for 60 servings or something like that)...(we're now divorced...maybe that's why...just kidding lol I fell out of love and he never attempted to hold on to what we had so...) Not to mention my ex-husband picked his best friend to be the best man, but he declined and said it was against his religion because we weren't getting married in a church. He also couldn't attend the ceremony for the same reason. Nor did he attend any sort of bachelor party, his girlfriend (my maid of honor) didn't want him going to a strip club, no matter what the reason. Also, she had no interest in going out with me or anything else so I didn't quite get to have any fun myself. Even a little get together over coffee would have been nice. Or help planning the wedding or anything. Oh well.
My boyfriend's father ended up taking his brother with him on his honeymoon. Granted, he was visiting from California (we live in Michigan), but that didn't quite make for a romantic trip away! Combine that with the fact that the groom and brother ended up drinking a fifth of whiskey after the bride went to bed (what a fabulous wedding night) and she awoke to well F you at 7 the next morning! (They were just joking around but c'mon, that's not a lovely way to wake up on your first day of marriage.)
At my boyfriend's first wedding (obviously divorced now lol), his uncle left the reception just because. His bachelor party was held at HER parents house...how exciting! Needless to say, if we ever get married I'll make sure he gets a proper bachelor party! LOL
I know it's not much, but I just hope it brought a smile to your face. I wish you the best of luck with this wonderful man, just focus on him - I know it's tough to lose a great friend (I lost my maid of honor when my son was christened - she couldn't even call me to rsvp and when I did call her, she said she was too busy to come.) but you can get through it.
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We had a combined bachelor and bachelorette party; at a place called “Howl at the Moon” (a piano bar) in Fort Lauderdale. (I hear they have them elsewhere) It was great! Joe had a best woman, instead of a best man, so we didn’t expect her to take him to a strip club. Plus he didn’t really care, he’d already had more then one anyway. They had buckets of drinks and sing alongs, plus they had a big mirror and people could give them requests and they would write the message on the mirror. We had gotten some bachelorette games and stickers and we passed the dare cards around to other tables. Everyone was saying how much fun it was, even the guys. Oh, I forgot I bought some womans g-strings in "hot" colors and we wrote womans names (Candy - Amber ect.) and phone numbers on them and asked women to go give them to Joe. One woman even did a little dance and slipped in his shirt. Everyone loved that. LOL
Maybe it’s bad luck to have a messed up wedding cake, because at my first wedding the cake was nothing like I ordered and ugly to boot. I made my own wedding cake this time. It wasn’t perfect, but it was mine. I also made groom’s cake, but my “friend” (the same one) let it turn over on the way to the reception. I guess it wasn’t that big of a deal, but I really wanted Joe to feel like something was done just for him. We plan to have a party here in Texas to celebrate (we were supposed to have it three week after the honeymoon) with friends and family who couldn’t make it to our wedding, so I’ll make another one then. We just have to get him well enough first. The bad news is that the doctor who did his hip surgery (trying to save the bone at the top of femur) back in October looked at the MRI he had done a few weeks ago and called to tell us that he thinks the surgery is “going south.” He has an appointment Wed. but we already know that this probably means he will need a hip replacement. Sigh. That will make it seven surgeries in a year and half. To tell the truth it scares me to death every time they put him under. I love him so much, I wish I could take some of the problems myself. I keep trying to remember that there are many people out there who are a lot worse off, but it doesn’t help. I would only wish them better too. I hate that anyone has to suffer; but I hate worse that someone I love is suffering. We try to keep our faith strong, but sometimes we feel like God is punishing us. Maybe we even deserve it. But we don’t have to like it. I want to thank everyone again for their prayers. Thank you. Patti -
It hurts to watch someone you love in pain. God isn't punishing you - and you don't deserve it. He only gives us what we can handle. Thhere is a silver lining there somewhere (I know it's cliche but it's true) - you have this incredible love for each other. I understand it's scary when they put him under - I was scared myself every time I went under. Things will get better.
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Thank you so much Angelseeker. I can see from your story you have been through more than any bride should of. Which just proves to me that you were meant to be. That hell or highwater
couldn't stop you. Instead for every stop that was set forth, God combated it with you. He was your ally, not the enemy. I wish you a strongand long marriage and I believe it will be. I will continue to pray for you and your husband. You see my husband married me with mine, knowing the torment I went through, and I wanted to wait, not burden him. He taught me that with love and faith all is possible. Been 3 glorious years almost, and we have 4 wonderful children together. We just live day by day, and are greatful each night as we go to sleep in each others arms, to know tomorrow will be a new day together. God bless you. '
Rose
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