edit--due to severe infection in my jaw bone and having oral surgery next week i have extended this contest until i feel well enough to judge. sorry.
My boyfriend and I have been having some serious issues lately. He told me the other day that he thinks I am still in love with my ex and if not that there is a serious lack of closure between he and I. In some ways he may be right... I am scared to death of this person as he threatened to kill me on more than one ocassion and has recently been released from prison.
What I want from you is writes that address this issue.
Have you ever had this problem? What created the issue? What did you do to move forward? Is it possible to forget the past and get a good nights sleep, free from nightmares? How does one go on living when life was taken from them by cruelty and insanity? Is it possible to still love someone who did so much to destroy your soul? If so, what does that say about me? etc... What if in forgiving the abuser, the abused still finds love in their heart? Is this possible and if so, what kind of sadist/masochist(?) does that make the abused?
I want the writes to be about closure AFTER the abusive relationship has ended. There can be some about the abuse in the write but i want the focus to be on the moving forward, or rather the way one did it.
If you can't write from experience, then you may write as one giving hope to a friend in this situation. What advice, words of encouragement and options would you offer them?
Rules:
no dirty/pretty
use spell check and proper grammar
not mandatory but it would be nice to comment on at least one other write in the contest
use common sense and you will do fine--most of you have entered enough contests that i don't need to tell you all the rules
***place your author name in author notes or you will be disqualified without further warning***
(PLEASE PAY ATTENTION TO THIS AS I DO NOT WANT TO HAVE PEOPLE 'YELLING' AT ME BECAUSE THEY ARE OFFENDED THAT THEY WERE DISQUALIFIED)
My boyfriend and I have been having some serious issues lately. He told me the other day that he thinks I am still in love with my ex and if not that there is a serious lack of closure between he and I. In some ways he may be right... I am scared to death of this person as he threatened to kill me on more than one ocassion and has recently been released from prison.
What I want from you is writes that address this issue.
Have you ever had this problem? What created the issue? What did you do to move forward? Is it possible to forget the past and get a good nights sleep, free from nightmares? How does one go on living when life was taken from them by cruelty and insanity? Is it possible to still love someone who did so much to destroy your soul? If so, what does that say about me? etc... What if in forgiving the abuser, the abused still finds love in their heart? Is this possible and if so, what kind of sadist/masochist(?) does that make the abused?
I want the writes to be about closure AFTER the abusive relationship has ended. There can be some about the abuse in the write but i want the focus to be on the moving forward, or rather the way one did it.
If you can't write from experience, then you may write as one giving hope to a friend in this situation. What advice, words of encouragement and options would you offer them?
Rules:
no dirty/pretty
use spell check and proper grammar
not mandatory but it would be nice to comment on at least one other write in the contest
use common sense and you will do fine--most of you have entered enough contests that i don't need to tell you all the rules
***place your author name in author notes or you will be disqualified without further warning***
(PLEASE PAY ATTENTION TO THIS AS I DO NOT WANT TO HAVE PEOPLE 'YELLING' AT ME BECAUSE THEY ARE OFFENDED THAT THEY WERE DISQUALIFIED)
Contest is Over
- Contest was judged on September 21, 2008
- Rewards: Gold: 913, Silver: 190, Bronze: 130
- Final notes: Congrats to all
Contest Winners
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There’s days when I wish
You could see me, just so• Viewed by judge. Prewrite [remove]
Gold trophy winner
Silver trophy winner
Bronze trophy winner
Entries [17]
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I left home on my birthday
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Will you please come and sit
I have a story to tellby joy4seen 35 lines, 9 comments, on Jun 18 9:34 PM 2008• Commented on by judge. -
My memories, My painful memories I've held for too long.• Viewed by judge.
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My husband shouted and threw stuff,
my tears began to flow,by Poetess12 48 lines, 3 comments, on Jun 19 12:27 PM 2008• Commented on by judge. -
It's quite obvious,
that you've learned nothing.by The Rainbows Mind 64 lines, 3 comments, on Aug 4 12:40 AM 2008. In closure, thoughts, break up, aggression, letter, wasted effort• Viewed by judge. -
I lay there in my bed
listening to the songby Wings of Insanity 65 lines, 17 comments, on Aug 3 7:58 PM 2008• Viewed by judge. Prewrite -
Darkness was the shroud,
It corrupted my memories.by Walls-within 36 lines, 1 comment, on Aug 7 9:34 AM 2008• Viewed by judge. -
Memories of love spilt blood,
never seem to fade away.• Viewed by judge. -
i will NOT let bad exs stop me from of dating
i've learned quite a bit• Viewed by judge. -
by righteousme 62 lines, 2 comments, on Aug 7 12:38 PM 2008• Viewed by judge.
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Burning pain hides away in the fears
Endurance would pull all your tears• Viewed by judge.
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I have a few questions, number one, what is dirty/pretty? and you want poems to be about closure on abusive relationships? -
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dirty/pretty is a form of poetry that uses a lot of symbols and such that is extremely difficult for some (including myself) to follow. secondly, i want the writes to be about closure AFTER the abusive relationship has ended. there can be some about the abuse in the write but i want the focus to be on the moving forward, or rather the way one did it. thank you for considering entering this contest. viyanna rosemarie
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What a great theam for me
I have been slamed and vilified a lot lately
by a woman I was foolish enought to believe to be my friend, and her new lover.
I am very tempted to write for your contest
and scribe how she betrayed my care, for another,
but I think I will have another cup of coffee instead... lol... or mabey Ice cream
She was not who I believed she was, how sad, and just not worth the words anymore.
There is my closure
But I was tempted, Rick
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i hope that you change your mind and enter this contest. i always enjoy reading your writes as you do such an excellent job. sorry this happened to you. being of the female species, i apologize that you had to go through this heartache. viyanna rosemarie
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I am so glad you posted this contest. I have never written about this part of my life. Maybe this is my closure. Thank you
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you are welcome and i look forward to reading your entry.
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Well I've never had this problem but a friend of mine has and I believe she put her trust in God to help her make it through it.
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i hope you are feeling much better! i too had jaw surgery, but not for an infection. just to 'improve' the shape and structure of my jaw, and i know what it feels like! hope your well, and water is the best to keep the swelling down!
Emma
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My poem...if I can figure how to post it!!
Hi. I am going to submit my poem, although it is rather rough right now...I've lost most of my stuff due to HIS theft of my work which cannot be reconstructed PLUS new computer loss PLUS I am new here so please forgive me if I step-over some boundaries? Meanwhile, I can talk to you via email, if you like...I have lived abuse most of my life and have learned so much from it that I cannot seem to vocalize the many truths in my pathetic writings. -
Great contest. It's really specific and honest. I think you have helped yourself a lot in starting this contest. Outlining what it is you want/need and asking for help to make it happen are great stides toward closure. I hope you like my poem 'Declaration' I decided i needed to draw a line under what i was going through, so it was the 1st one i ever wrote. Good luck
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Tell him "YOu can have a fresh start. You just can't have it with me."
You are within reason and right to ask for boundaries, limits, respect. You are not being mean or unreasonable for holding him accountable for his past bad behavior. The risk is too great. You can love from afar...
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