Looking through the site day to day I've noticed that a lot of people(not just me) are cutters. I, as well as my AP sister, just got new boyfriends, that aren't too much like us when it comes down to cutting. They love us, but they don't understand, that them setting limits to us, saying things like "If you love me, you won't cut" or "If you cut, _*we're over*_". Not realising, its because of them, that we cut, instead of completely killing ourselves.
Dealing with cutting, or Eds(we deal with both) is very hard. Having no one understand us, not even our boyfriends is harder then anything right now. Them putting pressure on us, doesn't help. Us not being able to talk to them, doesn't help.
To Help your friend/boyfriend/girlfriend with their self infliction, instead of making rules, or threats say something like "If you want to hurt yourself, pick up the phone, and call me, I'm here for you, I care". That would mean the world to them, instead of saying simply that you don't want to talk about it.
It gets hard, seeing the scars, and hearing that the person you love so much isn't as happy as you wish they were. So help them. Its not impossible, because knowing that someone is there for you, and loves you, makes you feel somewhat better, and gives you a reason to try. You have to realize that everyone makes mistakes, and everyone falls sometimes. Its important that you help that person get up again, and are there for their support. Don't care so much that it hurts you, but help them, and maybe in return you'll both hurt less. Its better to know the truth, then to have them hide it behind your back.
To Yancey(haikumonkgirl's boyfriend) and Dustin(my boyfriend) and any other's bf/gf/friend of the self inflicted, that aren't as supporting as they should be, or dont understand. *Im just striving for someone to understand Sara, and I. I love my sister dearly, and I know it would kill us, to lose the people we love.* Comments are welcome.
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I love you, LaLa
