An act of adult domestic violence occurs every 15 seconds, more frequently than any other crime in the U.S. (FBI).
Domestic violence, also known as partner abuse, spouse abuse, or battering, happens when one person uses force to inflict injury, either emotional or physical, upon another person they have, or had, a relationship with. It occurs between spouses and partners, parents and children, children and grandparents, and brothers and sisters. Victims can any age, race, or gender.
Force defined:
an individual or group having the power of effective action , Active Power,
strength or energy exerted or brought to bear ,capacity to persuade or convince,
violence, compulsion, or constraint exerted upon or against a person or thing
Statistically Between 2-4 Million Woman are battered a year and a estimated 2000 die from injuries sustained from beatings and assaults. Though don't think there isn't violence against men as well. In one study done men were known to report Violence more than Women. Hmm..
All the stats and reality doesn't show what happens to a family and the impact abuse has.
One doesn't think about the long term affects that this has on a family. A son who watches his father beat his wife in turn may grow up to batter his own family. And so the pattern continues. Sadly what alot of people don't realise also is that their children can also be abusive towards them. Research shows that approximately 900,000 parents are beaten or abused by their children each year. ).
Though many of us are sickened and saddened over children we don't think of elderly abuse. It is out there and has led to many deaths as well.
Studies show that children who are abused violently or are beaten are more likely to marry someone who will be abusive, or will be sexually abused at some point in their life. At this point you all I am in tears.
The thing that has hurt me the most is it is always the one person you never thought it would be that is abused. I had a friend Juliet. She was a larger woman, and seemed to be like me, loud, funny and never hesitated to share her opinions on anything. We were friend's with her Husband and we all hung out did the BBQ thing whole nine yards. Flash forward 8 months and I get a weird phone call. Juliet's number on the caller ID. But no one is talking I hear a noise. Nothing. Click. Something deep in my soul told me something was wrong.
I gathered up the kid's and drove to Oak Grove Ky, the area where she lived , and just jumped out of my van running and banged on her door. No answer, so I just walked in. I found her in the bathroom on the floor. Her husband had beaten her to a pulp. And I about had a stroke. What was I to do? She was crying, bleeding, and filthy. Looked like he had drug her from one end of the yard to the other. Rick walked in out of nowhere. Now I am a short woman, you all know that. But I swear I grew on that carpet. I grabbed a bag was throwing stuff in it, what I can't even remember, and was cussing and screaming at him. He was grabbing at me. And it was on. I knocked the hell out of him.
I took Juliet out of that house and she never went back. They are divorced now and she stayed with me for a few weeks. But my whole point was, I never would have thought her. Not Juliet, she was bigger than Rick.She was vocal. Turns out ? It had been that way between them since High School. HIGH SCHOOL.
Teach your daughters and sons, no one has the right to hit them, verbally abuse them.Even something silly like stupid, I don't allow my kid's to say to each other. Or shut up. I hate those two saying's because that was always said to me growing up. It is amazing the awful thing's that stick with you. Yes you might say beautiful sweet things, but the one mean thing that is said? They will remember.
Abuse is a non-stop pattern. Someone hit them or talked awful and so it continues, and until someone gets help? It won't stop.
If you see a woman or a child or a man getting hit, call 911 trust your instincts, if your stomach Say's Omg that isn't right? Then it isn't.
Even me the great mother than I think I am had the police called on me once. It is actually a really funny story. I was trying to buckle Nevaeh into her seat outside of a restaurant here and this couple walking by heard her ungodly screaming. And came up yelling at me. I was like look all I am doing is trying to put her in her car seat buddy you do it then. They shot me a evil glare and walked off muttering. I thought nothing of it. Til I was home watching movie night with neighborhood kids( my neighbors kids were all there of course!) knock at the door. It was two men in suits. Which is never good to see on a military base. Opened it and sure enough CID. Criminal Investigative Dept. Seems the good couple followed me to the gate had the MP's get my tag and called in a report of abuse. The Officers wanted to die of course when I did a play by play of putting her back in the car seat. She threw her usual fit. And they couldn't stop saying I'm Sorry ha ha. But like I told them, I am glad that they cared enough to check. People need too. You never know anymore.
Do you know why the Ribbon for Domestic Violence is Purple?
That is the color of the bruises left on someone..
One call could save one person. Just one person..
Please Never hesistate..
Feminist Majority Foundation which has links to every State's Domestic Violence help areas
www.feminist.org/911/crisis.html
National Domestic
Violence Hotline
1-800-799-SAFE (7233)
www.ndvh.org/ National Domestic Violence Hotline Website..
Adding your comment:
, my sister has had trouble with her husband and my step-mother would beat me and my younger brother with a chair leg after coming home drunk from the local pub ?... my brother and I were aged just 7 and 4 years old at that time 
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