I'm Sorry, Momma!!

Has it ever occurred to you as a kid that you wanted to be best friends with some school mate and the other just rudely said "I don't want to be friends with you"? How bad did you feel? Or how hurt would you feel if it happened?

I hope this doesn't sound too personal, simply because it's a common complaint among 90% of modern mothers, who have at least one teenage girl at home…
If you're a girl, please do ask yourself this question: "How much time do I spend with my momma as a FRIEND??!"
- Not much?
Then read this…

She feels as if her girl has grown up to abandon her, and remembers the old days when her daughter would come home from school to spill all the events of the day and share it with all its joy and trouble.
She thinks her girl has lost all the will and interest to talk to her, and whenever they are together in one room, for some reason as TV or any other common interest, there's nothing heard as human voices, expect the ones coming from the TV. The silence is getting them much bored of each other. The mother is willing to talk and share yet the girls announces 'there's nothing much to be said" and that "there's nothing new in her goddamn boring stupid life", whereas when she's left with a laptop and an internet connection, or with a telephone, the mother becomes surprised to find all sorts of secrets being spoken of, and that her little girl's life is so full of new events and feelings the girl doesn't feel like sharing with her mother.
The mother starts to think of her future as a crippled old woman who needs help to change the TV volume, and whose girl has her own big life and doesn't even bother to pass by some time to check on her mum and take care of her and her very simple needs, either it is a medication, or just a warm hug and a kiss on her forehead.

The mother tries her best to get closer to her little babe, and to convince her that she will never find someone who loves her as much as her momma, and tries her hardest to sound fun in front of her daughter's friends, in many attempts of trying to be her best friend.
Unfortunately, in most of the trials, it doesn't work. Or it works for some time and the effect soon fades away, just like every good thing the mother does to please her daughter.
She tries again, urged by the overwhelming capacity of love she has for her little girl. And fails again. Tries. And fails. Tries. And fails….
After a loooong time of trying and failing, the poor mother becomes tired, and can no longer take the way she is being treated. She decides to re-arrange her priorities, and after some time of thinking she decides to focus less on the existence of her daughter in her life. She imagines it as if she isn't there; to save herself the trouble of getting hurt by the one she loves the most, and also decides to focus on herself as a woman, a human being, and all the rights she had given up in order to take care of the one who is neglecting her now. How ungrateful!! …

So, girls… I just want you to think about that for a while…
Has it ever occurred to you as a kid that you wanted to be best friends with some school mate and the other just rudely said "I don't want to be friends with you"? How bad did you feel? Or how hurt would you feel if it happened?
Well, that is actually what YOU are doing now… but this time it isn't with your school mate or your colleague. It's your MOMMA …
At least look at the age aspect! That school mate who didn’t want to be your friend was something like your own age. But that woman who wants to be your friend is like twice or even THRICE your age… and you're not only hurting her, in fact, you're humiliating her.

When you find you mother keeping the first dress she ever bought you or your first photos, you take it for granted and think that it's very normal of your momma to keep such things. But when one of your friends keeps the cover of the music disc you bought her/him, you feel like you're on cloud nine and you love that friend so much because he/she kept such a thing.

Try, for once in your life, to think of your mother as a human being who sacrificed many things for your sake and your siblings', not as someone who just orders you around the house and prevents you from going to that party which is held on Planet 'X"…

As you finish reading this, please do go to your momma, kiss her forehead, and tell her: "I'm sorry, Momma, can we be best friends?!"

I'm sorry, Momma. I love you.