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Loyalties and Being a True Friend on AP..my thoughts

Reflections on convenient relationships on AP...Should they be so, or should being a friend go two ways... (print from www.art.com."Reflections on Friendship")
Have a good look ....the two boys are fishing considerately...one on one side of the bridge, and the other on the other.

People come and people go in our lives.  Online and offline, like the seasons some stay for that amount of time or even a few weeks...They needed assurance to stand on their own, or for a short while as they underwent trials.

I have to remember I have had relationships in an apfamily that may not be the same now as two years ago when I started....Perhaps I have to work at renewing those friendships again.

This matter comes to mind this morning as start the day and reflect on this subject.

We may have used a relationship for our convenience and our need, but do we think of the other person, do they have needs...When they are in trouble or needy are we there for them?

When we have fufilled a need with others through their struggle, are we tossed aside because it was our turn to share we might have a need?

Again this topic goes back to the subject I first wrote on...Being True To Ourselves as Poets on AP...

We may be some consolation for someone on here  that needs it for a little while, but we have every right to feel the need to be consoled as well...That is what being a friend or relative is..giving and taking...

That is from my heart today....

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  • Rose Angel gold member
    November 14
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    Thank you Joyce...It has meant the world to me that you have come by and read a journal that was written some time ago but on a subject that many of us ask ourselves. Your views are much like my own..the need to treat others as we ourselves would like to be treated and vice versa...We all have our times of need, and we must stop thinking we are the only ones that matter...Others do too...but don't forget us, friends...we need a hug and prayer, and a "You make a difference" Rosemary


  • Freed by Mercy silver member
    November 13
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    Some people see their needs as the deepest, or just don't see the extent to which they "use" and take advantage of the goodwill of others. It's too bad. Sooner or later, most of those givers will allow themselves to fade from their lives, and the "takers" will find themselves alone. I have needed consolation and prayers in the past few months, and I have let that need be known. Some answer, others don't. Sometimes, our families are the worst at giving such consolation. Usually, though, their are a few angels who will offer warmth, love, time, prayer, a virtual hug even. They're "keepers"

    May you be consoled in your heartaches.


  • anaisnais
    May 28
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    This goes back to the old saying to treat others as you would expect to be treat yourself in many ways... Personally I try to return all comments on my writing as quickly as I am able - depending upon technology and commitments, but would like to think that those closer as friends here would feel able to shout up if ever they needed an ear or a shoulder, either here, or by e-mail, or another site they know I have for my interests and hobbies; - I'd like to think I would always be there to return the faithfulness of friendship whether it be in time of need or otherwise... and yet still I feel exactly the same when things are tough and you need time out from those too close to home... Think I know how you feel but there if you need me when I'm around...By the way, maybe this is a good time to say thank you for being you and encouraging my writes, your support always appreciated incase you did not know; Anna-Marie.


  • historygeek6190
    May 27
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    you are so right Aunt

  • Bob Fox
    May 27
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    Rose

    I understand where you are coming from but unfortunately , in this ME Me world, many see kindness and empathy as a weakness. What bothers me on here is the phoniness of so many & the groupie stuff. This is supposed to be about poetry first . Or so I thought.

  • sleepinglion
    May 27
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    Friendship

    Hi Sis, lovely meaningful words
    There is a lovely song which you most probably know, called, ''candle in the Wind''
    One line goes as follows,-
    Help yourselves to each other, that's the way it's meant to be.
    And we do just that, but the more we learn to do it in a loving caring way, the more we will fall into line with the ''Universal''.
    Love David


  • Have left the stage gold member
    May 27
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    I'll be back to comment on this one in depth. Work calls. Tony


  • Reptile Lady gold member
    May 27
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    I felt this one deeply sis
    and totally agree with your voiced sentiments
    Beautifully done and I love the image you chose to support your column
    best wishes my sister and friend
    Julie x


  • Rend the Veil gold member
    May 26
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    you know Mom,
    as i read this colum and it just broke my heart, you are the first person i know that encourages and prays, comforts! you believe people at their word.that is a lovely trait because of who you serve you treat people with the same eyes that Our Lord does, I know you have been let down by people, I know what that feels like Just know I am here for you always,
    Blessing and love

    Rend


  • Desire gold member
    May 26
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    So True~

    Bless Your Heart for speaking within~ There are many Blessings here who make our day and I can name many~ There are several Blessings whom passed on that I had the Honor of making their acquaintances here on AP They listened when they did not have too- Life moved and grooved but they always found time to at least send an energetic when words may not have reached my shores but I was Grateful for their concern They passed on but I still remember the moments & will cherish them for a Lifetime I Love it when You write from the Heart~ Just like how it should be for others to inhale Your Wisdom
    Love You for ALL You are Beautiful~ and keep on being You ~
    with love & light~ Desire~*~


  • Antipodi
    May 26
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    Some beautiful relationships have been formed on line but we must err with caution sometimes danger lurks behind what seems innocent and we let down our guard ...Cyber friends are safe but we must walk that fine line ...I have some wonderful and dear friends on AP ..they have some very sad discussions and I will listen and try to help but giving out personal details is NOT and option ...We must realise we are a cyber community and as such act responsibly ...one great thing though being anonymous we can tell a special cyber friend our deepest thoughts and not worry about reciminations or anybody really knowing us...Keep spreading the love dear friends ....


  • maralisa silver member
    May 26
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    aw a perfect write on freindships thank you for sharing your honest and true reality of what being a freind is all about sis maralisa


  • penman gold member
    May 26
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    So very true. You capture so much of what is reality with friendships. Thank you for your wonderful reflections.


  • HaleyMary
    May 26
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    I have been part of allpoetry for almost six years now. And there are some people who I feel I can trust whole heartedly. I remember one time I was in a tough spot online at another site. Some guy who I had talked to for quite a long time hit on me in a comment and I didn't take it seriously at the time and posted it on my author page, I took it off my author page awhile ago, but my allpoetry brother BionicPoet who by sheer luck happened to be on allpoetry at the same time that night, did take the comment seriously and he warned me by saying my name and then was silent. At the time I knew something was wrong, but I didn't know what.

    So, I don't take my allpoetry friendships for granted. Sometimes people are there for you when you need them the most. And, that's what being a friend is all about.

    Haley Mary

  • Just4u
    May 26
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    Friendship seems to be in direct relationship to time. When life gets busy friendship seems to be mostly ignored and once things settle down they
    may once again be rekindled. One thing I have noticed in life is that
    the odds of any two people always being on the same wavelength is zero,
    so there are going to be ups and downs. Some consider their time more
    valuable then others, this can be seen when you leave multiple comments on someone's poetry and maybe get one or two reads in return. This is going to be the year of weeding out for my time right now is very limited and will only be getting even less as summer approaches. Sometimes we are only there for the time needed, to help
    someone over the hump never to be seen again. With others we may float in and out of there lives with missing spots in between. Most will only have one or two friends who are there most of the time.
    One lie often repeated is I'll ALWAYS be there for you, but this is impossible and everyone will abandon us at some point in our life.
    The secret is living in the moment for it is only when we reflect back to
    the past that we tend to put "conditions" on friendships and true friendships are the same as true love...unconditional in the end...

    Have a lovely week
    Eddy


  • misticmoonlite gold member
    May 26
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    oh what a treat

    AP relationships can be(online)
    as well, We learn not to trust,and learn to trust our instincts
    and don't give your all to anyone,online...... I met some in person and know some are sincere,some are untrue to themselves
    and so we go on and try to be friends and give our all again
    LEARN to trust your emotions and contain what you feel
    till you know them as best as you can...so many ways to look at each situation... be alert...
    Linda


  • awannabepoet
    May 26
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    Hi Rose,

    A friend is always a friend lest they be the fair weather kind, those were never really friends but just simple aquaintances.

    While it is true that people float in and out of view they never really forget or at least you would hope they don't but I have had my share of those as well.

    For me personally I have only three real friends that I have known since I was in grade three.

    I hope your feelings get better as your day progresses.

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