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Maintaining A Life On AP

A busy ap Mom, and relative shares how life off line and on, can get testy, and trying to keep the peace can be difficult. (print of Mary Cassatt "Mother and Child" www.art.com)

A short brief note tonight, as I have been on AP for over two years, and having always wanted to be a woman of peace, sometimes issues come up that trouble an ap family member, and as an earthly mother we try and do that which can bring resolution and peace..

Sometimes a family member wants to conduct themselves independently in a way that upsets another.

 Distancing ourselves from the problem is the answer, even if we have to distance ourselves from that family member who continues to upset the other(s).

Not one to get involved in family matters, but for keeping the peace, or protecting the family..I mind my own business.

 

I take this opportunity to tell you all that as my family and friends, I may seem to ignore or not be around as much..This year has alot of extra responsibilities for me in a stressful atmosphere as some of you know. We have been dealing with dishonest and fraudulent people who

have committed elder abuse to my 87 yr. old Mom.

If at any time being patient and honest under duress was called for, it is now.

Keeping the peace in the apfamily and in my real family is my prime concern.. Yours for happy writing and family life....Rosemary

 

 

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  • Dear Friend...I like what you have shared...For some truly their life on here is their lifeline to acceptance and for some survival as they go through their difficulties in life..
    But, I may add that poetry should be our first reason to be on AP...and receive the moral and uplifting encouragement of fellow poets...For some it is to build friendships, and others more..
    For me it is to be an encouragement to fellow poets, and the young ones starting out...Truly the relationships can be an illusion...the soap opera can be just that...I try to be real though others may not wish to be... I value your comments, thanks friend I truly am glad you commented...

  • AP is something I do not understa, AP itself, AP families, mainly AP husband and/or wives, which to me is nothing but smoke and mirrors--It is not real, but they act as if it real like they are going steady like children do.
    I got caught in this crap for a while and was supposed to follow her likes, avoid her dislikes and play by the rules as if married. I got out of that fairly quick, YES!.
    Is this the only life these people have? It is like a soap opera. Anyone that follows wishes, durther or rules is a weak fool, but it happens, people buy into this. WHY?
    I respect your views, but feel strongly about mine. If this means that at AP I will be left alone, GREAT, at least my feet touch the ground.
    I have said too much. Sorry. I think here at AP that for many, poetry is secondary.


  • BonnieQ silver member
    May 5
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    Distancing Can be a Good Thing

    Your last line, I feel, says it all: still caring, we sometimes must distance ourselves or lose self, and in losing self, we can inadvertently turn away from God. Even He recommends distancing in specific cases. Well done and said, darling Sis.

    Much luv & hugs, SisBon


  • maktub
    May 5
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    I am sure that whatever you choose or do, it will be the best you can....as far as I've known you, you've given nothing byt wise advice, helpful words and honesty. I am sure everything will be fine...


  • Jonbug gold member
    May 5
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    I pray you find peace in your decision.

  • Dear Friend...Thank you...That is just what I have been thinking about tonight, not so much for myself, but as we know the story of this son, he chose his own way, but returned eventually..Had the father kept him against his will there would have been alot of trouble.
    I hold no ill will...I just want to maintain peace in the household, and if there is dissension, I have to intervene. Also, we can choose to disagree, and keep the peace, but if the peace cannot be kept and a family member is upset, we have to use wisdom in maintaining it.
    Truly, I try to please everyone, and I know I cannot do so....but would like to part in peace if I can...

  • Thank you Cheryl and dear Rend...I try to please everyone, but try to keep the peace...As adults we have to give some of the family the right to live the way they live, but if they upset other family members for a time, we have to sometimes give them a long leash till they may decide to want to be part of the family once again...Love is the aim....thank you!

    • pearlstp
      May 5
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      LET GO and LET GOD

      A character in a parable Jesus told to illustrate how generous God is in forgiving sinners who repent. The Prodigal Son was a young man who asked his father for his inheritance and then left home for “a far country, and there wasted his substance with riotous living.” As his money ran out, a famine occurred, and he went to work tending pigs, but even then he could not get enough to eat. He returned home, knowing that he had given up his right to be treated as his father's son, but hoping that his father would accept him as a hired servant on the farm. Unfortunately there is a little bit of prodigal in all; and Darling no one can please everyone. Do be blessed this day. Sis Pearl

  • Mom,
    your intentions are always good, and your heart runs deep with the love of God.dont let it bother you, just keep praying only God can give them
    what they need,
    I love you Mom.

    Rend

  • Rose, you have always been a dear and honest soul to me over the years and if someone has upset you then I can only think that it must have been pretty bad, you are not the type of person who gets upset easily. Some people on here ruffle feathers just to see the effect they can cause, but we real people know they are not real, so don't let them bother you too much. *hugs* C

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