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What should I do ???

What should I do, please help me to make the right choice.

Dear friends,

 

 I hope this message greets you with a happy heart, unfortunately mine is not, and I really need some advice.

 

You see, I have to make a choice, in wether to put my dog to sleep, or medicate him and pray that he will pull through.

 

My much loved pet maltese dog named Jasper is 15 years old.

He has been my compainion all these years and is a very loyal friend.

 

He follows me everywhere, if I am in the loo, he will wait outside the door until I am finished, or if I am having a shower he will wait in the bathroom while I bathe.

 

He always knows when I am in pain, and he will come up and nudge me, and give a little lick on my legs or feet, which are the cause of my pain.

If I am upset, he will sit beside me and wait there til I have stopped crying.

 

He is a beautiful pet and I love him dearly, but just recently in the past 48 hours he has had 2 fits where he has like a mucsel spasm and his whole body twitches and he yelps in pain or fright, his breathing becomes shallow and the first time he was gasping like a fish does when it is taken out of the water, slowely he started to breathe as I talked to him trying to calm him, after the attack he passes wee and can not move for a few minutes.

 

Now his breathe is short and shallow, and he looks so sad and unwell, yet he still gets up every now and then to follow me.

He is going to the vet on the week end to get checked out.

 

His brother died last year, he had a heart murmor as does Jasper, and he was given medication to clear the fluid that kept building up in his lungs and another pill to slow his heart rate down.

It looks like  Jasper is going to go the same way.

 

My son had Rastis (Jasper's brother) and tried everything to help him out, but he still had the same attacks as Jasper but not as servere while on his medication.

He died while sleeping in his basket and was found by my son. We had him cremated and now have his ashes in an urn.

 

I don't know what we should do, I know the vet is going to ask what we would prefer to do, I can't make this dession, do we medicate him prolonging his pain and discomfort  and fear when he fits, or do I, be cruel to be kind, and put him to sleep?

 

I am going insane, I don't know what i should do, and I know it has to be my dession in the end, but I would really like your input on this and what you would do if in my situation.

 

My heart is breaking, it feels like I am loosing a child, he is my baby.

 

Please help me to do the right thing.

 

I send to you much love and happiness, and thank you in advance for any suggestions.

~Anne~.

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  • Purush
    April 3
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    ALL IN ALL

    PRAY LORD WITH A PIOUS AND SERENE HEART
    he WILL SHOW US THE RIGHT PATH.
    WHAT ALL HAPPENS ULTIMATELY BE TREATED AS HIS GOOD GESTURE ALL IN ALL

    • Frogzter


      Dearest Frogz,
      Thank you so much for taking the time to read and for leaving your thoughts.
      Deep in my heart, I know I should do as you advised, I feel it is the right choice, and I needed reasuring that it was the right choice to make.I just needed confirnation.
      I don't feel so alone knowing that you too are a dog lover and that you know my pain and understand where I am comming from.I know it is for my own selfish reasons that I want to keep him here with me, and I know this is wrong of me.
      I know what I must do, and I thank you for your caring and keeping me in your thoughts and prayers.
      Much love and happiness to you.
      ~Anne~

    • Purush


      My dearest friend,
      Thank you so much for taking the time to read and leave your thoughts on what I should do.
      I have been praying to our Lord to show me the right path to take, I await his guidence.
      Much love and happiness to you.
      ~Anne~


  • Frogzter gold member
    April 3
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    I know how terribly painful this is for you. I am a dog lover and presently have 4. I have lost pets in the past to old age and various other things and it is heartwrenching. I know you love him with all your heart and letting him go would be horrible for you, but what will it be like for him if you keep him medicated so that he may live. He will still suffer. My advice is to love him enough to let him go. Spend the best quality time you can with him before this happens, but for his sake let him be relieved of his suffering. It is a hard thing to do, but to love him enough to let him go would be the ultimate sacrifice for you, but an act of love for him. I am so sorry! Believe me I know. My dogs are my babies and letting them go is the hardest thing we can do. I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers. Make the right choice for him.

    Blessings,

    Frogz~


  • Meroza
    April 3
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    He is old, his time is up. It sounds as if he have had a wonderful life already so he won't have any regrets on going to doggy heaven.
    Also, I'm sorry that you have to make a choise like this, it must be very hard. I coudn't imagine loosing any of my cats, for they are more then just lojal friends, they are family.

    I will keep you in my mind, and hope that you will have enough strength to go through with this.
    All my love, Merosa

  • Dear Anne,
    I can relate very well to your sad predicament as I have experienced the same situation on numerous occasions in my life.
    Having a cherished pet that you love is indeed a blessing and the love for a pet is every bit the same as that of a close friend or family member.
    I had to make that same sad decision you are now
    faced with, less than two years ago and it involved my pet cat who had developed feline leukemia and was bleeding from the rectum and suffering greatly.
    I took my pet to the veterinary clinic and the doctor told me there was nothing that could be done to cure the cat or ease its suffering and the vet recommended euthanazia.
    It was one of the hardest decisions that I was ever forced to make in my life!
    The ultimate decision was made because how badly my pet was suffering and I couldn't stand to see her that way. Believe me--It was hard and I cried a lot of tears, but it HAD to be done!
    My pet's name was "Fuzz-Face" and I wrote a sad poem about the incident by the same name.
    If you care to read it, the link is below, but be forewarned--It is SAD--Heartbreaking!
    I also owned a dog that was my childhood pet from the time I was 8 years old until I was 21 and in the Army stationed in Vietnam.
    His name was "Fluffy" and he also had to be put down for a large cancerous growth in his throat and the malignancy had spread to other parts of his body also---I was overseas when this happened to my dog and my mother kept putting off writing me the letter that my pet was no longer with us. She dreaded writing that letter, knowing it would break my heart while I was so far away in a war zone.
    I wrote a poem about that incident also entitled--
    "A Long Distance Goodbye" which is also equally sad, but I'll provide that link also, should you decide to read it--I'll understand if you decide not to read the links I post---It's just to let you know that I
    underwent what you are now going through.
    The decision must be weighed heavilly on the advice of the Veterinarian as to his prognosis for your pet, the age, the cost of any treatments or surgery and your personal financial situation and most of all the amount of suffering your pet is enduring---There is NO quality of life if that life is
    filled with pain!
    That is what swayed my decision to have my pet cat
    put to sleep and what swayed my mother's decision to have my pet dog put down.
    I understand the heartbreaking circumstances you are undergoing and I sympathize with you.
    Here are the links to the 2 poems I mentioned--
    Writing is a great tool to provide release during troubled times--I wrote "Fuzz-Face" about a week after she was put down--I couldn't do it any sooner
    --I was grieving too badly!
    ___________________________________________
    "Fuzz-Face" http://allpoetry.com/poem/3938095

    ____________________________________________
    "A Long Distance Goodbye"

    http://allpoetry.com/poem/3956211
    _____________________________________________
    My Heart & Prayers are with you in whatever you decide to do.

    Sincerely, AL

    • BuriedTreasures


      Dearest Al,
      Your words have brought so much comfort to my soul.Knowing that you understand and have felt the same brings a sense of comfort to me.Everything that you mentioned I have to agree with you.
      I have had to make this choice before with my much loved pet rats.I loved them so much, and to this day, I still grieve for them.
      With Jasper it is even harder because he has been with us for so long, and it is like loosing a loved one when our pets die, because they are part of the family.
      I am so sorry that you have had to endure such heartache with your losses, ones never forgets how much it hurts, but as you also mentioned, writing your feelings down is good medicine, I wrote a few poems about Jaspers brother when he died last year, and it helped me a great deal.
      I will read your poems and thanks for the links, I have no doubt that they will make me cry, but in a strange way, I it will also help me.
      My choice will be made after I have spoken with the Veterinarian,I will not allow my baby to live his life in pain, because I know what it is like as I live in servere pain 24/7 and have to take morphine twice a day, and its no life at all having to rely on medication just to get you around, I could not have that for my pet.
      Once again Al thank you, and I send to you much love and happiness and will up date this topic when I have spoken with the vet.
      Your friend...~Anne~


  • Beret55 silver member
    April 2
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    Pets get to be part of the family. And they greeve us so when they pass on. But to be kept alive in such pain would be wrong , i think. I'v had to do that a cpl times . It is the thing to do. And its tough.
    I'm so sorry .

    • Beret55


      Dearest Paul,
      Thank you so much for your thoughts, it brings comfort to me knowing that I am not alone and that you know my pain of having to make a choice. Deep in my heart, I know the right choice, I guess I just need confirmation that I was making the right one.
      Pets are part of the family, and loved just as deeply, that's why it is so hard.
      I will update the topic when i find out more from the Veterinarian.
      I send to you much love and happiness.
      Your friend always,
      ~Anne~


  • Nicada silver member
    April 2
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    My dear friend Anne....I feel your pain and heartache, but really I think in your heart you already know what you need to do for that special companion of yours. As you have said, in the end it will be your choice. So, sit quietly with him and listen to what your heart and gut are telling you. Don't doubt it. It is always right. I trust that you will do what is best for both yourself and for little Jasper. My thoughts and prayers are with you as I know how much it hurts to lose a beloved pet. I will pray for peace for both of you. Let us know how things go. I will be here for you. Blessings, Patty

    • paw-writer


      Dearest Patty,
      thank you so much for your thoughts, support and caring.
      Your words have brough some comfort to me.
      You are right saying that deep down I already know what I should do, I have felt this in the pit of my stomach, I guess that I just needed confirmation from others on what they would do in my situation.
      I know it is very wrong of me wanting Jasper to stay for my own selfish reasons, I must think of how he feels.
      If only the decission could be made by some body else, but in reality, I know this can not be done.
      I will let you know what happens after I speak with the Veterinarian.
      I send to you much love and happiness.
      Your friend always,
      ~Anne~

  • We had the same thing almost with our dog Sally. We decided to have her put down. before doing it we gave her all her favourite foods and lots of attention we spoiled her completely and then she got the injection and died ebing cuddled by my daughter in law. I think it would be the best thing to do in your situation. best of luck. Dogs have spirits too remember. You prcious one will be free of the pain.

    • Janice M Pickett


      Dearest Janice,
      Thank you so much for your thoughts on what I should do, your words have brought some comfort to my soul.When the time comes for this choice to be made, We too will be spoiling him rotten, making the last few days very special for him.
      I also believe very strongly that pets have spirits too, and that they are there to greet us when we pass over, I also believe that we are able to communicate with them after they have passed ,just as we do when we communicate with our loved ones who have passed.I know that my mum would take care of him until it is my time to pass, I know she has my pet rats with her, and just as I wrote that, I heard her say (within my mind) I'm gone, and yet I still get stuck with looking after the pets and she laughed. This is my mums sense of humour.
      As a child, we would always be bringing home lost animals including wild birds, lizards, and possums,and mum would always be the one doing most of the caring.
      With the wild animals she would help care for them until they were able to be released back into the wild, and with domestic animals, she would feed them and care for them until the owners were found, or we ended up keeping them when no one claimed them, so it was funny to hear my mums voice saying what she said lol.
      Please dont think me strange that I can hear her, we have a strong psychic connection.
      I will up date this topic as soon as I find out more from the Veterinarian.
      Thanks once again dear friend,
      Much love and happiness to you.
      ~Anne~


  • starfish
    April 2
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    ooooh........I am so sorry this happening I hear your pain and despair. I think to prolong his life would be to prolong his suffering and he won't be the companion you love - he won't be be able ro follow you to the bathroom and so forth. I would say let him go now, in peace, whilst you still have the happy memories of him for those memories will be tainted if he suffers.
    Love you please take care

    Louise

    xoxoxoxo

    • piccola


      Dearest Mary,
      thank you so much for your thoughts and caring.your words have brought such comfort to my soul, knowing that I am not alone in this decission that I must make.
      I cant believe how insensitive the Veterinarian was to you when you took Domino in.
      As if you were worried about his teeth at that time....like hellooooo we are here because he is in pain, not to have his teeth checked!!! what an ASS.
      Poor Mr Mac, the pain he must of endured would of been horrific, i don't understand how your mother could let him suffer so, all because she would of suffered herself with him not being there.
      She should of thought of what poor mac was going through.
      I know the choice I have to make, I guess deep down I always have, but just needed confirmation that it was the right choice to go with.
      I do not want my pet to suffer and I do not want my last memeories of him suffering.
      I will let you know what happenes when i have spoken with the Veterinarian.
      Thanks once again dear friend, you have helped a great deal.
      Much love and happiness to you,
      ~Anne~

    • starfish


      Dearest Lou,
      My wonderful AP daughter, I have to agree with you in what you have said.
      Your last thoughts written here, tugged hard at my heart....

      I would say let him go now, in peace, whilst you still have the happy memories of him for those memories will be tainted if he suffers......

      Your words , so true, and I would not like to have those memories of him in pain to be my last ones of him.

      Lou, thank you for your thoughts on this, it is very much appreciated and is a comfort knowing that you understand.
      Much love and happiness to you, and big hugs too.
      Take care sweetheart.
      ~Anne~

  • piccola silver member
    April 2
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    Dear, lovely gentle Anne ...
    I had a spaniel that I so loved. He was black with one little white diamond on his chest. His name was Domino. He too, sensed my moods and would come and sit at my feet, his head on my lap if I was sad or crying for some reason. My son acquired him on his paper route and he was only about 5 weeks old. His little black muzzle was covered with fleas and looked like it was moving. We gave him a flea dip ... dried him with my blow dryer (on gentle) he was such a dear little thing. Any way, he lived to be 18 years old and then went into heart failure. The vet gave us medication but he didn't improve. He struggled for breath ... when we returned to the vet in 3 days time, the vet said we could operate and recommended that quote: he probably won't survive the surgery due to his age and the seriousness of the condition. If you decide on the surgery, we should probably clean his teeth while he's under sedation" ... Ass! We opted to have him put down rather than to see him suffer any more. It's hard to make such a decision. I in no way suggest that you do this, it's just my experience. When I was a teen, I had a little Cairn Terrior named Mr. Mac, that I sooo loved. I couldn't take him when I married, so he stayed with my parents. They allowed him to age, go blind and suffer from rectal cancer. He would get into a corner and struggle to find his way out; needing help. I begged my mom to have him put down ... she refused out of sentiment. I pray I never let a pet of mine suffer so. I pray that If I am in agony someone has the decency and kindness to "let me go" My thoughts are with you.

  • mcfreeman
    April 2
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    I spent a Christmas with a dog dieing in my lap because the vet was not open when he NEEDED to be put down....most people wait to long...it is a kindness to the animal to do it sooner than later.

    It is not about your baby....it is about how the dog dies.

    • mcfreeman


      Hello sweet one,
      Thank you so much for your thoughts and caring.
      It brings me comfort knowing that i am making the right choice in having him put to sleep if the need be. I guess that I have known this all along, but needed confirmation that it was the right choice to go with.
      I do not want my pet to suffer and I do not want my last memeories of him suffering.
      It must of been very traumatic for you having to go through what you did with the dog, was it a family pet?
      I will let you know what happens when I have spoken with the Veterinarian.
      Thanks once again my sweet one, you have helped a great deal.
      Much love and happiness to you,
      ~Anne~

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