Life is a journey on the way to what's next. It’s often a journey of twists and turns, sunshine, then rain, bumps in the road, then smooth sailing – but – that’s rather the point. It IS a journey and how we live that journey us up to us.
Most often we create much of our happiness and unhappiness. Yes, sad things happen but it's our choice how we handle them. We can allow them to tear us down and pull us under or we can stand strong, learn, have our grief and move forward with the knowledge we've gained. The mind is everything - what we think we become. (Buddha)
It’s easy to get caught up in the sadness-in the dark instead of moving on. You're holding tight to the pain. Read this poem by Anais Nin: And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom.
It's scary letting go and moving on. But letting go doesn't mean what happened didn't matter - it simply means you're moving forward and using what you learned to grow.
That's how life works. Each thing that happens to us - good and bad - is an experience. Those experiences are for our own personal growth. You may learn something from a situation or you may learn something about yourself. Either way - with each experience you become wiser.
Yes - there is pain - that is a part of life. Without the pain and the times we fall and the hard things we could not grow. We'd simply float along rather in a lala land hovering but never reaching our full potential.
It's hard - there's pain...which is why so many turn to drugs, alcohol, crime and even suicide because that "out" seems easier than dealing with the pain. But it is in the dealing that we learn who we truly are and who we can become. The pain doesn't drag one under - allowing the pain to take over your life does. Absolutely everything happens for a reason. Often it's hard to see that reason and often you won't see it for a long time. Sometimes the reason is simple and sometimes it's complicated. Sometimes it's a wake up call...and a chance for change and growth.
It's all about choice. You can choose to live a lifestyle that is detrimental or you can choose to stop and begin creating the person you want to be. Another question to ask yourself is " Is what I'm doing making my life better?" (American History X)
Are you going to let someone else’s choices dictate YOUR life? Or are you going to stand up for YOURSELF and create the life you want? Because you can - it's a choice. At some point who you are becomes a choice.
In order for others to believe in you - you must first believe in yourself. That's where it starts - with you.
© M/Gatlianne 2009
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