Parents today

Take a good look at parents around you, yours and you as a parent. Look at families and how distant thay have become. It makes me sad to know that parents today are not there for their kids. It’s like they stop caring when they turn 18 and leave. I don’t get it. If you have kids is that not a commitment to them you will be there for them, care for them love them and be the best parent you can possibly be. I just don’t get how Mothers and Father can turn their backs on their kids. Do you not see your child struggling his or her way through life? How come they simply look the other way? Regardless if your child is an alcoholic, a drug addict, gay, a jail bird or just a simple person trying to live their life and get by the best they can. As a mother I cannot ever imagine turning my back on my kids regardless of how they live their live. A little insight on my life, I was disowned when I turned 18, why because I didn’t want to go to college. I wanted to live my own life and figure it out for me. I was tired of my mother and her abuse. It did not mean that I did not love her it meant I just wanted my own live not controlled by her. Since the day I left she will not even acknowledge me as her kid. She simply stop loving me and caring about me, not that I think she ever did care, but it is sad. My father left me when I was 5. He decided to take his own life. I am completely unsure why to this day but I deal with it and accept the fact he simply did not want to be there for me during my life. Why have children if you are not going to be there for them? Why have them if you are not going to take care of them properly. Being a parent is a full time job till the day you die. Don’t you want what is best for your child, always? Being a parent does not mean that when they are 18 you are done with them. I know parents and their children do not always see eye to eye, nor do they get along all the time, but for god’s sake you brought them into this world. And for what, only to abandon or turn your back on them. Do you even care how your child is living his or her life? Are you even a part of it? Or do they not want you in their live because you were so shitty to them. For me I knew the day I left I was done with my mother. She made no effort to accept me for who I was and how I wanted to live my life. It being a single choice I was tired of her and her drama. Did I still want her to be a part of my life, Yes I did. But for some reason she got it in her head that she didn’t have to be there or take care of me since I was a so called adult. Even though this woman abused me for years either verbally or physically I still wanted her in my life, but I was done living with her and her ways. But still does that mean as a parent that when your offspring is old enough we just cut them loose and wipe your hands of them. Let’s face it this world is going to shit with parents like that. I forgave my mother after everything she did to me and yet she still denied me til the day she died. As a parent myself I cannot ever do that to my children, regardless how they turn out. Who they love or how they choose to live their life. For example My ex husband he has two parents who are still alive. One caters to his sister and denies his own son. That is wrong. Come one he is still your son. While the other parent know s how he lives his life but decides to take the tough love approach. Again this is still your son. My best friend her parents cater to her brother more, why because he moved about an hour away and they never see him anymore. Come on what about the child you have 20 minutes away. I also have a friend who has kids and is a divorcee and uses them to get back at her or his ex for him either cheating or for not being happy and leaving her or him. Come on those are his or her kids and if he want s to be there for them and be a part of their life for god’s sake let the man or woman. I don’t understand how parent can do that to their children, it only affects them in the long run. I have another firend who has a kid and has to talked to her in years because he is so wrapped up in his or her life. Come on that is your daughter. Be there for her. What the hell is wrong with the elder generation today. I’ll tell you what they don’t give a shit they are to worried about themselves or they simply are too busy to even care. Frankly I think some of these parents should even be breathing my air. Here I am a single parent sturggling my ass off to make ends meet and make sure my kids are taken care of and have everything they need and are happy with no one to help me with my life or my bills. I thank god for my children’s 2 father’s still being there today either to help take care of them or help support them financially. Even though I am concerned about my oldest daughter and her father not being there for her they way he should be as a parent I do appreciate his support. I wish he would take more of an active roll in her life but I understand him and how he is due to his own upbringing. ut he should be putting her first as I do. People if your going have children really think about it seriously not only do you have OPTIONS, either abortion, adoption or to keep that child you created but hell practice safe sex. Look at the poverty this world is in. Look at where our country might be going. Love your kids that’s why they are here and why you choose to have them. Has parents today gone mad? Does generation ahead of us need to take parenting classes. I hope my generation that we as parents try to be better than our parents were.