my book of encouragement and growth written in 2003 on my journey of writing

my book of encouragement and growth written in 2003 on my journey of writing
MY BOOK


I must first say some thank you to firstly my partner
Who has helped me along my way with leadership, encouragement to grow?
Also many other things. I love him dearly.With out him I would not have
Dreamed of writing. I would also like to that many authers of self help
Books who have given me encouragement to heal myself .they are well worth
Reading if you don’t know which diretioins in life to take .
Susan Jeffers (FEEL THE FEAR AND DO IT ANYWAY).
Scott peck (A ROAD LESS TRAVELED)
Juli Cameron(THE ARTISTS WAY)
So a wonderful gratitude of thanks for your inspirational BOOKS
My finel word I must tell my children I love each and every one of them
Dearly. And there father for his years of friendship and I am greatful
For the good times we had but now we must move on and get on with our
Own lives.THANK YOU ONE AND ALL

LIFE

I will open by saying that your past does not equal the future.No matter how

Hard it is to put away we can forgive and forget sometimes as that makes us
Who we are.As time is a healer of circumstances and does heal wounds
If we let it.When we can accept that life is a stuggle and tough only
Then can we reach out to find our true selves in a challenging world
If we waste to much time and energy on things that don’t realy concern
Us we can t seem to move on or concentrare on our own lifes.
As we start to heal ourselves from within we can then get asence of
Different directions to what we realy would like to achieve because
If we have goals in life believe me we can reach for the stars and
Nothing is impossible. One of the most difficult things in life is
Getting trapped by emotional feelings because we are to afraid of
What people think of us if we make our own choices in life but life
Is full of choices. That we can make on our own.even as children we
Should encourage them to make there own choices to a certain degree.
Because that gives them a better start in there life.for there journey
Towards adulthood its called buiding the foundations of life. .
If the foundations are not solid they will not withhold anything.
And will collapse or subside into the ground and will not withhold
The stucture of anything built on it.For Imyself was unable to make my
Own choices in my life for many years.It has been one of the best years of
My life this year because I have accepted that life is tough and decided to
Change my lifestyle in many ways.For I have spent a lot of time on
My own self development .Which has helped me enormously As my
Childhood was not that fantastic. But I don’t want to gointo details of that
Because I don’t want peoples symphathy. Because nomatter how tough it was
It has made me who I am today and Iam grateful for that.
Which brings me to my next subject which has been fear which
Has been with me most of my life of one kind or another until the end if last year
I met a charming man who gave me a great book to read by susan Jeffers called
Feal the fear and do it anyway .as I had never realy read anything in my life
Before this book was amazing because at school I never was acodemic I just
Learnt enough to get me by because Iwhent through life being ridiculed .
And this gave me such a low opinion of myself and I grow up with no
Confidance in my ability to learn and no self esteem so for the first time in my
Life I read this book and I decided to turn some of my fears into my own
Choices because my relationship with my ex husband had been very much on the
Rocks for some time I had met someone else and fallan out of love with my ex
It is hard but when you face it and turn your life around it is no good living with
Someone if you don’t love them anymore because it it is not fair on anyone if you
Life in hope that things will change and don’t because it gets you down and
Health suffers and it is not fair on the childrenI still am greatful for all the years we had together and we have four wonderful childrenBut because I had only been in one relationship since I was eighteen I think maybe Igot married to young without



Having alife first don’t misunderstand me there though Ilearnt a lot from myex.and
Appriciate him looking after three of my children because they choose to life with him
But that doesnot mean I don’t love them because the saying goes if you love someone
Or something enough you must let it go.so it can grow and develop.yes this was one of the hardest dissicions I had to make.Because fear is a word of being scared of the
Universe and the people init and noone is more capable then facing there fears then
Ourselves if you can face up to fear yourself then you have courage to deal with it
On your own you cannot blame anyone for yourmisjugements in life if life is
Tough change your rules and your standards to accomadate what you want
To achieve.believe me it works if you want it to.theres a saying that goes if you treat your friends like you treat your self hominy friends would you have because we
Should all give ourselves treats especially when we have achieved something on our own
Because it gives us satisfaction to achieve more.So if you believe in yourself you can
Face your fears and deal with them

STUDY Study is a intense process of growth in study we must learn to discipline ourselves . we must learn memory recall and relaxation.Because if the body is not relaxed and focassed on whatever we are studying we will not learn nothing nomatter how hard we try. The purpose of reading is to understandwhat we have read totally word for wordin order torecall back information from memery which is much better than writing information down however writing is a excelant form of communcation because it can help us understand more about who we realy arehowever some memery recall can get forgotton with writing.so if we can recall or processes wethe information is in our memory for ever because it can teach us somuch as I am every day recalling my processes it has taught me so much it never stops there is always something now to learn every day we learn from whatever we experience that is if we can aceppt that we lear from our mistakes as well as our achievements because we are all human after all.So to get the right answers in life we must learn toask the right questions.Ask the right questions with procision then the correct answerbecomes from the question

METAPHOR Metaphor is a change of feeling .A change of doing . A chnge thinking wheather it is negative thought or anegativefeeling or negative thinking .In just the same way weather it is positive thinking positive feeling or positive doing we are all guilty of this . So a metaphor is usually a question of the way we do or do not think about what we say toourselves and to others around us also the way we speak .Also the way we trap our feelings toourselfs and others around us. Also the way we do things ourselves the way we do thingsto others and ourselves .So if we learn that we should understand that we should think carfully of what we are going to say or do or even think then sometimes our opinions are best kept to our own because we are all individuals no t one of us is alike

What is life life is about living each day to its full potentualit is a great gift so we must grab it by the balls and life life to the full and not let things get in our way.Life is all about achieving happiness power and accepting chages of the universe and people init And making a difference to the universe and all the people init andour own lifes we should learn to understand what we say to one anoterh without offenceby thinkingabout what we want to say before we say it .then speak in a calmly clearly and effectively as the power of words is one of the most powerful things in our lifes life is about building up and up and reaching the sky because the sky has no limits and each and every individule has no limits.

FRIENDS Today I feel my freinship of encouragement growth and value. I am pushing away further and further away. Why is because I have many things to learn about appreciating a good friend. Because I have have difficulty changing them . So will you not feel hurt by my ideas of life and not feel condemned or ridiculed by my habits and please give me encuoragment to change them . I don’t want to push a valued and loyale friend away. I am truly sorry for my misconceptions for not seeing myself for who I am but when I find myself I hope I will develop into a woman one day when I find out what one realy is . If we donot concoiusly and consistently focas on our spiratual part of ourselves we will never experience the kind of joy satifaction and connectedness we are all seeking .

INCORECT CONCEPIONS W e are all guided by a sence of feelings which is more or less unreliable .Because if we reconise that what we feel is right then we will stick to it eventhough it may not be right but it will feel right to us nomatter what the out come would be it thenbecomes a habit . if we in princable we are told we were doing it wrong . then we find it very hard to change because our guilded feelings know it feels right to us . So to changeour misguided ideas we need not to sence our feelings eventhough it will very strongly wrong to us it may feel correct because it can produce an enemy to ons self because a person can feel there way is better . Because people adapt to there own way and are afraid of using other ways to the extreme it makes them feel insecure. Ways of changing to do things correctly first to seek physiological and physical appearance and to eradicate any problomsthat may have addeared then emphaticly understand why this problom persists .Also try new approachs to there problom without judgement in a calm and strees free manner by changing there ideas themselfes

We must all extend ourselves in order to grow and learn.you are not here to do what others want you to do but what you want to do .for we all have our own unique mind and bodyto make opur own choices . we can learn so much from childrenas they arefree and fearless. Having courage in life is a life well lifed .

Seek first to under stand then to be understood. Listen with your eyes for feeling. Reflect other peoples feeling to get a understanding giving people freedom to express themselves listen with your heart .Because we only listen selectively but must take time to understand what there eyes and body language is saying reaffirm your motives don’t manipulate take great patience don’t doubt peoples problems listen indebt to people don’t be invasive empathise don’t push the the problom wait until aperson is ready .Attitude is very important it is better be polite and not to be arigant.mimic content rephase content put there meaning into your words so you can reach a better understanding of there situation.to show you understand things in depth give a phicological air to people. Think of yourself being a whole person listening to another whole person . SYNERGISE The whole is greater than anything. Be open minded create a bonding with others is a friend ship for life.

PHISICAL CARE OF THE BODY Exercise one of the most important stucture of the body and mind if we are not active we are neglecting our ownselfes because it can cause such a low energy flow in our bodys which not only effects our bodys but also affects our minds over a long period of time one of the best exercise we all do regulary is walking this is great for the mind and body .neglecting our bodys gives us low energy however we cannot burn the candle at both ends as they say.if we can get addequite exercise we can produce the best stimulation for the mind and body

RELATOINSHIPS One of the hardest things in a relationship is the ammont of trust we can build up if we cannot learn to understand the word trust in our relationship then we can neglect all the people around us building up trust comes from the trust you have inyourself first if you don’t have any trust in your own self then how can you possibley trust any one else around you. So one of the best ways of trusting those people aroud you is to start appreciating what others do for you because to appreciate is to value and to value is to love so give appreciation lots of hugs hugs go a long way to buildng up trust in your life love can be unconditional it has no barriers.the more loving energy around you the larger your prosperity

PROACTIvE Learn to not react to circumstances in life. It is with in our own minds to choose feelings emotions ect so have the determination so be responsible be self aware be self sufficient be patient be a role modole listen to undestand
And intime you will be understood it takes a long time to understand who we are