Theres a time in your life when you realise that you have to be independant, you learn that there are more important things than your own fears and tears. You learn to care for the needs and feelings of those around you, that sometimes, it's more important to give than to recieve.
For years now I have argued that I'm not a child but I never really understood what growing up really meant until now.
What is growing up all about?
It's facing reality (no matter how much you prefer your dreams), it's the loss of innocence and the earning of knowladge, it's about stepping out of your bubble and into the real world, it's learning the world doesn't revolve around you and that life is about give and take not just take. The most important thing about growing up isnt learning how to look after yourself, it's learning how to help other people, how to put there needs before your own, no matter how hard it may be.
Growing up takes years, obviously for a reason. I mean if you think back to your childhood, if something went wrong, you'd run to your parents or another adult, you would burden your problem on them and leave it with them to be solved. Now though, it has to be you to solve that problem.
Children always dream about growing up and can never understand exactly how easy they have it being just a kid. They dream about late nights and not having to tidy thier room for months on end, but they can never really understand the responsibilities and hardship that you have to deal with everyday as an adult, but then if they did, well every birthday would be spoiled dont you think?
What its really about...
(my first column so dont really know what I'm doing)
(my first column so dont really know what I'm doing)
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Your thoughts are admirable, it is certainly a human being that knows how to be human that extends a hand to help others. It's also important to have a balance, it is worthy to offer understanding and a shoulder to those we know and those that are strangers too but also reasonable to ask for the same level of consideration.
Indeed when we are younger we wish oh, if only I were older, free from school regulations and ground rules at home and then when we are older we are subject to the unwritten rules of society, those of the law, work and safety regulations and so on.
When we are younger it feels as if we are always being disciplined and it may be wearing but it does prepare us to develop the self discipline that is needed when we become older and responsible and have more responsibilities.
I agree, it would be both difficult and also unfair to enlighten a child to the point of adult understanding before the candles on their birthday cakes are in double figures.
I don't believe growing up is easy for any one, rich or poor, able bodied or disabled, black or white, everyone faces different challenges whilst basically learning all that there is to learn along the way.
We all have different ages, an age according to our date of birth, our chronological age. An educational age. An emotional age. So for instance, a twenty year old could be emotionally 12 and educationally 14.
Enough of my rambling, but my final thought is we tend to spend our formative years worrying about growing up and as soon as that changes we worry about getting old!
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