It seems like just weeks ago, I was starting year 7. Sweet innocent and ready to face the next 5 years in Our Lady's Convent in London.
Four years later its like all the energy that used to be spent on classwork is being used to console my irrational friends as we hit the disaster stage of puberty.
It all started when we all looked old enough to buy alcohol even though we were 4 years underage. Suddenly Suzie decides to cry for no reason and then mentions cutting herself with her brother's razor. After days of 'Suzie what's wrong', 'Suzie you can tell us anything,' she suddenly stops as quickly as she started and we don't know why.
Then skinny Alex suddenly feels the need to become a size 0. Now ridiculously skinny that when I hug her I flinch at the bones sticking out of her rib cage. Coming from a wealthy family and amazing parent, what exactly is her reason for being so obsessed with the way she looks, considering she has always been known for her pretty face and bubbly personality.
Next up is all round good time girl Becky. Also good looking and thin, funny, smart and crazy and we love her for it. Now she goes quiet all the time, doesn't eat and doesn't respond when we ask. Constantly degrading herself, her once extroverted character has almost no self-esteem, and I'm still trying to find out why.
Also my good friend Kate, after being dumped gets so drunk on booze (despite being 13) that she ends up making out with a 16 year old girl in the toilets of a park. Five minutes later, they are both topless and I walk in and have to pick up the pieces.
And finally theres me. Always good in class, good grades, and semi-popular (if I do say so myself). Now I find myself over whelmed with people that I care about hurting, and frustrated because I have no clue what to do. So maybe i'll become a cutter/anorexic/ general psycho to ease the pain and offload my problems onto someone else!
Rosanna Elanne (Ellie) Dundas
As a teenager, it seems all my best buddies have changed for the worse. Eating disorders, cutting, casual sex and the sudden urge to become bisexual or gay (no offence to homosexuals) just to find into a certain group.
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This is so true. Almost all my friends seemed to have reach this invisible line where they just kind of forgot everything and started stupid habits. I know it can be really tiring to be the only sane one, but trust me, its worth it. And if you stay smart and keep supporting your friends, eventually they'll come back, and you'll probably attract other people who aren't interested in doing stupid stuff like that, too.
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no way!!!
Ok i am 17, so i can relate. I have friends like that. And yea its stressful, very! But being like them isnt the answer!!!!! Do you want people to look at you like that. People don't look at people that do that in a good way. You should feel happy in your own shoes. And tell your friends to get over themselves and get a clue. tell them to get up and grow up. They need for me to get a hold of them. Dang, i would set a new light in them.I have friends that tried tellin me their probs and they were doing such things. I told them exactly what i thought and what i thought they should do. And they respect me for it. People come to me now for advice. Be yourself and keep going girl. You will make it. Hey message me if you still have any doubt.
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damn..lol..i know how you feel..
thats all i can really say..lol
this is great..
with society today.its kinda not hard to figure out whats wrong with them.. and the girl that makes out with other girls.. might just be bicuriouse and not really sure of herself.. ya know.. im bi.. but ive known since i hit lthe third grade that i was...
but thats just me.. some peplle are just following trends and will grow out of it.. some are seriously sick.. and need help.. its just up to you to figure out wich one is wich....
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Thanks, it most be insulting to gay and bisexuals having a bunch of lame teens faking their sexuality to fit it. Its ridculous. Just be yourself. I am what I am and I like it!
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Wow you blow me away !
What a great poem / story, I really, really like it.
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thanks you very much. im glad you liked
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I can feel your pain and know how you feel. Even when I first started secondary school (aged 11) these changes took place. My old friends from my old school where I live now (afterwards I went to a specialist school for those with sight problems like me) started being all weird.
Rozanne started smoking and became a full time kleptomaniac (stealing things obsessively).
Elaine begun to get depressed and tell us she hated herself, her life and that her dad was mean to her (though her dad was the coolest guy in the world... Seriously. Sweets, sleepovers, TV... He was the best to stay with was Brian).
Then Becky, who started turning pretty much annorexic after being told by one person she was chubby once. She also started becoming bitchy and trying to take me along with her, making fake letters with hurtful remarks on them and hiding her handwriting (I did one with her once as we used to be best friends and she didn't turn up to school the best day but I did. Good thing I used fake handwriting).
They used to be my circle of friends, then they turned all funny. My Mum and I have walked past them in the street in the last year or so and they look slutty (mostly) and bitchy.
We are turning to American culture here in Britain and it's disgusting (no offense to the American's). The girls are either popular, cheerleadering pompous peeps or they are quiet and disliked, normal but picked on. Guys are into football and play sports, have all the girls chasing after them or they are geeky or quiet, picked on by the other guys.
THIS IS SICKENING!
Sorry, I do Psychology and Media as A Levels (Advanced) and influence of Media and other parts are a big thing in these subjects, so I have a vast opinion on this topic.
Sorry if I went over the top, just my opinions.
Please no American's hating on me. Individuals I don't have a problem with, it's this 'stereotyping' in schools I can't stand.
Def agree with you though. Even with the new circle of friends the ones I never expected to give into peer preasure and other such things have done. I guess we aren't as solid as we think of ourselves half the time.
Good luck with your friends. If you ever want to talk, just message me. I'm 17 myself
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Thanks for that. Its just such a big change from the way we once were. Aren't these supposed to be the best days of our lives? The Emo/Indie/Stoner/Cutter/anorexic 'trend' is not only dangerous but plain stupid. I dont see how puking your guts up, being ridiculously skinny, and having cut marks all over your arms makes you attractive.
Thanks for the offer, I think I may IM you, it would be nice to see what happens after KS4!!
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Yes, but what has this got to do with poetry?
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its not a poem, its a column.
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Wow.Sounds like my friends.I too have not figured out the solution.why can't we all just take a deep breath and see the stupidity of what we are doing?
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Tell your friends they need therapy. You aren't a therapist. And it will be bad for you, them, and your relationship if you try to be theirs.
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Theres a human need for drama
If we dont get it, we fabricate it
love
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wow yeah that stuffs not cool
never do that, you are the pinicale of hope for your friends that do partake in those activities. just do what you can and it will all turn out alright. -
I can't say more than what's already been said. It's good that they've all got you around!
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I'm glad you're in the world Ellie!
It's the toughest thing, to hurt with others and to long to make them better. Thing is they're the one's that have to do it. I think the best thing we can do is be there for them like you are and live to the best of our abilities. In other words be an example of a happy together person and they'll want to emulate us. Don't allow yourself to get torn up because you'll be no use to anyone, including yourself. Accept that you can't do everything for everyone but you can do something even better. Be a shining light, a magnet and draw others to you because they'll want a taste of what you have. So be happy Ellie, radiate it and it'll make a difference!
Peace Georgia
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AWWWW thanks thats soo sweet. Ah the crisis of the teen, you'd think with everything being free we should have it easy, but no. Ho hum, im ofta slit ma wrists and cry.
Peace
I'm joking by the way. Cutting is a serious issuse and should be dealt with by a responsible adult! -
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I know all about cutting, drugs, rape and other thing because I learnt the hard way; I was one of those teenagers. If I'd had a friend like you it might have been different so I'm glad for the ones who do know you!
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Definately relate....brother just got kicked out cuz he was into drugs. always drama. it sucks. dont go down the path they do though. great write.
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Wow a Powerful Poem Here !
Wow I really like you're poem, You handled a difficult aubject very well. Keep up the great work my friend. -
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Girl I can really feel you. Nowadays you can't live the suppose "best years of your life" anymore...everything is drama....and everyone wants to be grown. It's either your too fat...to skinny...your black...your white...your mix...your gay...your not. Everyone is worried about what the next person is gonna say...too wrapped up in drugs...sex...beer...gay/straight.
Bascially I can totally get what you are saying...some of my friends are going thru it...I even went thru a moment where I was lying to myself...now I'm true to myself...no matter what other people think....
Thanks for writing...got me thinking!
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Thanks. I'm glad someone can relate.
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