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What has been happening with me

For everyone that has been so kind and concerned, a brief note as to what has been happening with me.

HI! first, a great big thank you and a hug to all of you that have, in one way or another, expressed concern over recent events in my life.  I have been a bit vague about it to all but a few, but would like to share what has happened with everyone, so as to let everyone know.

Vic, my belovèd hersband, has suffered with depression since puberty. This is the main reason he is disabled. Add to that issues with back pain, poverty and insomnia and it can become extremely difficult. At times, he has serious bouts that are essentially mental breaks.

This is one such a time, that started when his youngest son, Lance, was arrested although it is not anything truly serious, (we were able to bond him out that same night, thanks to my youngest son, Matt paying the bail).

 

The details are not very important, but lets say that it is somewhat like dealing with a person with alzheimers (no he does not have that). He is like a zombie that cannot care for the basics for himself. Daily care needs to be assisted, and I do mean ALL of them. Add to that the insomnia and the fact that there are some further bizzare behaviors. Like that he kept trying to unclothe and walk out of the room that way *giggle* !

(ok there is some hindsight humor to it yes, but it can be unnerving at the time). 

My greatest concern was during the times I had to sleep, but our sons helped out with that a great deal, although they all had a glimpse of things they would rather not *rofl*.

I can say that he is, fortunately, most of the way back now, although with some residual of the strange behaviour ( mimicing actions like eating when nothing is there)

 

Add to this that my teeth and my back have decided to complain... LOUDLY and well, I have not been in the best of places in my life right now.  Strangely, I found that returning to play DiabloII at times hepled a great deal!  I think it is the killing stuff that helped with my frustrations in this and other things. All said, I again thank all of you that have been concerned and assure you that I am still here and coming back, if not as much as before.

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  • -LilacThOughts- gold member
    July 25, 2007
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    Dearest Daughter

    ...you've been having a real tough time, thank you for letting us all know...depression is not an easy illness to cope with and doesn't just go away over night...Vic is not so lucky to suffer so badly with it, but lucky to have you as his wife, being there for him, and nursing him under such difficult circumstances is the purest gift of love that you can give to him

    I'm always around if you need and extra friend to talk to...you are in my thoughts and prayers

    All my love ~Mum


  • Sanguine Silence
    July 25, 2007
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    Oh, I had no idea! I'm so sorry, Peg. I'll think of you so much, I know you'll get through this, even though I don't know you very well. You really should be admired, your strength and constant sense of humour are incredible!
    I'm here for you if ever you need me (if you ever randomly felt like typing something to a teenager who lives across the Atlantic... well, it might happen!) as are so many other people. You are the furthest from alone it is possible to be, remember that!
    Well, this is quite a long comment. I might have gone over the top, I might not have... all of it's true, though!
    Best wishes!


  • Frozentearz
    July 25, 2007
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    I will continue to keep you in my thoughts and prayers big hugz
    Tearz


  • maa gold member
    July 25, 2007
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    you are a true earth-angel, my dear one ...
    always in service to those who are in need and suffer ...
    sending an extra portion of love and strength your way ...


    maa


  • Sacrificial Love
    July 25, 2007
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    Oh sweet Mommy.....

    Please know that I love you...and you are in my thoughts SO often...I have gotten a new # because my cell was switched to a contract phone...and when they made the switch...they wiped out EVERYTHING in my phone...so I haven't had your #... please send me a p.m. with your #... I LOVE YOU.... xoxo Bunny


  • luckynsincere
    July 25, 2007
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    Sweet Lady - -

    I want to extend my hand and heart to you. Please know I am here if you need anything at all... even if it is just someone to scream at I shall hold you in my thoughts and prayers.

    Mel

    Please do not hesitate to ask if you need anything

    WE ALL MISS YOU! I can't wait for you to return!


  • Arkbear gold member
    July 24, 2007
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    My Lady ~

    Wors are just words spoken and then analyzed by people...Prayers are feeling from the heart which go directly to the good Lord himself....not needing any deciphering ~

    He knows your pain and hard times....he is beside you.....right now ~

    Your husband and your family are going on my prayer list as soon as I click this *send* button ~

    The only job God has....is to help us ~

    The only thing that keeps him from doing that....is us, not believing he can or will ~

    I hope to see you back with us soon Hun ~

    Bear ~


  • Tamera
    July 24, 2007
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    Hugs, I'm glad your back and Vic is getting better


  • -theheartofme-
    July 24, 2007
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    Prayers your way....


  • grannyeri gold member
    July 24, 2007
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    One never knows what awaits us, what is instore just around the corner. So sorry you have to go through this but it seems you are strong and will survive all this. Glad the worst part is now over.


  • JeannieD Hunter gold member
    July 24, 2007
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    I too understand as well. I am glad Vic is on his way back. My prayers will be for both of you. I am glad your sons have been able to help out. I hope things will be back to normal soon. You need to take care of yourself as well. I am glad Vic has someone as strong as you. He is a lucky man.

    Jeannie


  • pixxiepoetess
    July 24, 2007
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    I'm so sorry to hear about your struggles. I'm happy to hear that your sons have been able to lend support through this time. It's always better when you don't have to go it alone. Hope things will be perking up soon. *hugs* pixxie


  • JustADutchie gold member
    July 24, 2007
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    I know what you're dealing with. My hubby has severe depressions from time to time throughout his whole adult life. Having to be the 'strong one' isn't always easy, so besides taking care of Vic it's important to take care of yourself too.
    Hope all will go well again soon.
    Hugs, Titia


  • Ethereal One gold member
    July 24, 2007
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    Hello Lady Pegasus. I am so glad that things are getting a bit more normal for you and Vic. He sure is lucky to have such a caring mate. Depression is a monster.

    I wish you both the best.

    Jeannette


  • pen-inhand
    July 24, 2007
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    God Bless you and your family. You can count on my prayers as well as those of my prayer group at church. that totals 47 people to ask God to give you strength. Big Hugs, Kelly


  • Twinstar
    July 24, 2007
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    Bless your heart!!!

    Bless your heart Shari! I'm so sad to hear about your beloved Vic, he is blessed to have you to guide him through this difficult time. Depression can be so debilitating and compounded by other issues make it even harder. You and yours are in my thoughts and prayers and you have been so missed. I'm glad to hear he is coming back around. Thanks for sharing this very personal news with us here, it is nice to have caring hearts around for support and comfort in these trying times... You are one strong lady and I have no doubt you will all pull through with flying colors.
    God Bless!
    Love & Light
    Debbera


  • Celticpoet silver member
    July 24, 2007
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    Words dont come easy

    Having read your message Lady Pegasus I am filled with sadness at your predicament yet at the same time with admiration for the way you have borne your problems and how you have used humour to lighten the burden somewhat...Im glad that your life seems to be getting back to its normal shape and commend you for standing by your husband in his time of need...God bless you both...xx Dan


  • Recluse Writer gold member
    July 24, 2007
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  • debilynn gold member
    July 24, 2007
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    oh sweetie! this is so familiar! my heart goes out to you. i went through a very similar thing back in 1997. my husband had a stroke though that affected the brain part that tells a person how to eat, dress etc. imagine naked in a snowstorm at 3am, just standing there. it was tough but when we love our man we do whats nessecary for their best outcome. i know what you are going through i admire you for your integrity. if you need to chat, i'll listen. maybe i can ease things a bit for you. i will be praying for you. God bless you always


  • ronnica
    July 24, 2007
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    My heart and prayers go out to you my Lady, I had a friend go through something similar. There must be some organisations that can help you out with respite days,
    Bless you
    Ronn


  • storiesuntold gold member
    July 24, 2007
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    Bless you

    I wish you could get home health care that could relieve you for an hou or two. I know its a hard job careing for an adult and very demanding too. You do love him though and thats a plus for with all the care you show those around you honey in time you will get back ten fold . Hang in there you are a very strong woman .


  • aslanlight
    July 24, 2007
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    You sound like a seriously strong woman and your sense of humour is amazing; it's a great gift and I'm so glad you have it. Stay strong and remember that all things work for good in those that love God.

    Peace Georgia


  • Lady Altheia
    July 24, 2007
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    I am so glad to have ytou back Lady P. You have been sorely missed. I am pleased you like the contest Tawk and I are hosting. We all were worried about you. You have namy friends here to talk to including me if you so chose. I know depression, maybe not at the extent your Vic is going threough but i know how trying it is at times.


  • Silent Cougar Moderators member
    July 24, 2007
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    My Friend, to lay open your private matters so clearly and share your times with us here, shows that you have a great grasp on things as they are and as they will be. This to me proves all along that you are a very strong willed person, who, no matter what is thrown at you, will stand strong and stay focused on even the less mundain periods. To give the support you do to your clearly loved husband, but yet, still have time to grace us with your presence, talent, wit and wisdom, is a prize we all share, shows us a character that we could all learn from. My heart goes out to you my friend, and indeed I think all who take the time to read your message will do also.
    Regards always
    Mike.


  • pattyann4500
    July 24, 2007
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    Obviously I don't know you, but I am part of the group, and that makes us like family.

    I can understand very well much of what you and your husband are going through. I am BiPolar, and I've had devastating bouts with depression that have left my dear husband pulling his hair out. He had to tell me what to do each day, shower, eat, get dressed. He helped me through the most difficult times in my life when I was nothing but an empty shell that leaked salty tears for what seemed to be no reason at all. His broad shoulders will never be truly dry.

    I commend you for your loyalty to your family, and I pray for all of you. I'm sure arms are wide open for you here at any time. God bless you. Patricia

    • aslanlight
      July 24, 2007
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      My good friend Chris has bipolar and he was high for a year, then before Christmas he took a serious dive and has been in and out of hospital. He's been on the highest dose of medication they can give him but it's not working. Now they want to give him ECT (is that right, electric shock treatment). I thought they'd done away with that and I don't want them to do it to him. Can you suggest anything. He's seriously lonely but I'm moving away. I asked my spiritual mentor to help him and he will but you know what he's going through; what can I say to him?


      • Lady-Pegasus
        July 24, 2007
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        actually i can, for me, what vic said helped the most was that i talked to him and kept asking him to come back, he says he cannot recall much else but that it was like a light with me talking to him, guiding him back.

        The other thing is a wonderful book by one of our own poets on here by the name of Janice M Pickett. The book has some wonderful ideas to help decrease the problems with it as well as some ideas of possible causes. I have asked and am waiting for permission to place the link to it in here for you. It is truly a worthy investment.


  • Abstract Muse
    July 24, 2007
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    I am so sorry to hear this.
    My prayers are with you and your family and my hopes are that all will work out.
    Take care of yourself and your loved ones and we will see you when you get back.
    ~Greg~


  • Elvenfairy
    July 24, 2007
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    well, I just hope everything will be alright. Remember, I am here if you ever need someoen to talk to. My mom has major depression, I know what a tole it can take. Anyways, I hope your life gets betetr reall soon


  • Elfin
    July 24, 2007
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    Prayer is the only help I can give and you can have them in abundance, may God bless you and watch over you, Val


  • catz Moderators member
    July 24, 2007
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    Oh, my dear friend, you certainly have had your hands full. I've wondered why I hadn't seen you on for awhile and I'm so sorry for the reasons. I understand at least some of what you're going through... we're having to deal with some similiar problems here since Sal's uncle, who lives with us, has been pronounced terminal with renal cancer on top of a stroke about a year ago which left his right side partially useless. And you, with your husbands depression to deal with... it must be a huge burden on you. Thank God your sons are willing to help.

    But God doesn't give us anything we can't handle and He guides us through it all.

    I wish you, your husband and family well and will keep you all in my prayers.

    Take care, Hon... of yourself as well as hubby. You're every bit as important as he is.

    Love, blessings and

    Dee


  • sunny day
    July 24, 2007
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    Shari, You just take your time and we will all be here with open arms waiting. It sounds like you have been through some tough times right now and you just need to sit back and let it all go. Be well. Love you my friend, Joyce


  • Haiku-bless-you silver member
    July 24, 2007
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    Thanks for sharing

    You sound as if you have your hands full on the home front, it is good to see you in good spirits considering all you have been and continue to go through. We appreciate you finding time to visit us here at AP when you can and share your thoughtful poetry.
    Peace unto you my Bandit friend.

    Dennis


  • Wolf Mistress silver member
    July 24, 2007
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    Hugs and thoughts for all of you and I do hope there will be a lot of sun after these rainy day's in your life


  • WolfHeart
    July 24, 2007
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    Honey, I know too well those depressions, but he seems to have extreme lows in his. All we can do is try to get through one day at a time. Does he take medication? Prozac helps me a lot. My friend's fellow has a terrible time too. She has to do everything - as he can't handle the slightest chores or actions - but she loves him and is happy, so we do the best we can. I hope you have pain medication.
    I am bringing you into my heart - know I am here for you anytime. I will IM you my email addy and you come to me if you need to talk. However, the idea of a man walking around my house naked would be a kick! Be blessed, dear one.

    Wolfie


  • Jadeheart 41
    July 24, 2007
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    Sweetie, I miss you dearly my friend, Please know you can talk to me anytime needed ... we all must go thru hard times and lord knows I'm getting my fair share also ... keep in touch ... your always in my thoughts and prayers


  • tawk gold member
    July 24, 2007
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    Thanks for updating all of us. My prayers our with you and Vic and the rest of your family. You know that my shoulder is always waiting for you to lean on all you have to do is ask. Glad you are back, but I understand that family comes first, but remember to take care of yourself too. Hug Theresa


  • Frodofan silver member
    July 24, 2007
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    I hope things get better,

    Will put you in my prayers!


  • Cynthia Gaines gold member
    July 24, 2007
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    God Bless You and Yours...

    I am really sorry to hear that you have been going through a lot of stress and pain. I only hope and pray you and your family are being watched and protected by God's love... I am very saddened to hear about your trying times. Please feel free to send a message anytime you'd like to "chat" and I'm usually able to respond immediatley. Take care Dear Lady Peg, and just know we AP poets and poetesses cherish and love you!!!! You've always been a loyal friend here on this site, and I appreciate the things you do in trying to pull this first book of AP poetry (and poets) together... You're a True Angel... Take care of Yourself... Peace and Love, Cyn


  • earthstar
    July 24, 2007
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    You are in my prayers.
    Take care
    Brenda


  • Whispering Wind Moderators member
    July 24, 2007
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    My Sister

    My heart goes out to you and yoursYA! will be in my prayers and songs Always here for you!


  • JustSimplyLissa gold member
    July 24, 2007
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    I'm sorry to hear of your troubles my friend. Hugs. Focus on what you need to. Family first everything else 2nd.

    I'm also always available to lend an ear, and if you don't see me here you have my msn. Take care of you and yours hun. the rest of the world can wait, and if they can't they can stuff it.
    <3333333333333333333333333333


  • zhaniswolf
    July 24, 2007
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    sis, you know we are your other family and that we all are here for you.

    my sincerest prayers

    ~zhanis wolf


  • xxRainbowDawnxx
    July 24, 2007
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    I'm so sorry Lady Peg to hear about all of this. Focus on your husband and make sure he's alright, family is the most important thing in the world and don't let it droip for anyone or anything.

    If you ever want to talk, just message me and I will gladly talk to you, offer my advice, or anything else that you would like me to do that may help.

    Best wishes,
    x Stef x

    • Lady-Pegasus
      July 24, 2007
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      thank you hun, just your well wishes, and those of everyone on here, is a great help, sadly the only medicine for vic is time and as he is most of the way 'back' now things will be back to our regular soon, i hope!

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