The urge to destroy something beautiful (which we all get sometimes, don't we?) is so much more powerful and dangerous in adults than in kids, for this reason. Because the destroyer is somebody you know and trust (and love?), and the words are crafted so precisely to burn your soul, the damage can be profound. That's why I've always had to concentrate on the fact that people are not my personal playthings, because I know that if I forgot it in anger and spoke the words that I know would affect them, they might never be the same, and I would doubtless lose them forever. I would feel vindicated with wrathful anger for all of thirty seconds, and then I would be crushed with guilt for possibly the rest of my life.
I am mearly a Man who is weak, I fall down and I make mistakes, the key is I hope I learn from them
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You are so right. Words can never be taken back and seldom forgotten once said. I try to treat others how I want to be treated.
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bravo...spiteis a dangerous weapon
nicely penned
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Cruel words are indeed very damaging exspecially when used toward a loved one or a child! Most of us tend not to think before we speak in the heat of the moment...it can leave you feeling worst about yourself than how you tried to make the other person feel. "The tongue is mightier than the sword"
Thanks for this very well written piece!!
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Not sure why I've not stumbled on this column before. I too have to be careful, but not out of moments anger, but because our language is so diverse, used in slightly wrong context it can mean a whole different thing. I worry about something being taken on board different to how it was meant. I would not knowongly hurt anyone with words or otherwise, it just isn't my way and would hurt me if someone thought otherwise. A great column my friend, kindest thoughts wishes and intentions always, Anna-Marie.
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love this column and makes one ponder in thought as to how they behave at times. Yes hurtful words are hard to erase sometimes, even if we forgive...can destroy many a heart and many a relationship...
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How very true this is, Sean. Thank you for your wise words of warning.
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I do have a quick temper, so I have to bite my tongue a lot.
I think I am pretty okay at not throwing words around, but it certainly does hurt people so much when it happens. Even when they forgive, they don't neccessarily forget. I am this way.
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That is SO true! In one thoughtless moment, or a flash second of anger, damage can be done that may last a life time. A hurtful word, or a harmful action can cause irreversible damage, and the sad thing is, it can never be taken back no matter how hard one tries. It is true that it is better to not let this happen in the first place! Thank you for sharing these thoughtful words of wisdom! And you are right, people are not "play things". We are all human though, and sometimes slip and make mistakes. This is where God's mercy and forgiveness comes in, as well as others' being forgiving. The past is already done, and we can be swallowed up by our regrets. This is not what the Divine wants us to do! We must trust in that unconditional love, forgiveness and compassion that is ours! Every day I have to remind myself of this because of my own regrets.
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i always try to stop and pause for a moment to give my brain time to think befor my mouth goes into motion when i am angered, to lessen the possibility of saying that which i may regret, mostly i try to think of the reaction the words i say would have if they were said to me and not by me, it helps, but we all make mistakes, the thing to do is try not to make too many
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Aww..
We all make mistakes, and fall down, and forget...That's why God's mercy, love and grace mean so much! Hunny, i know personally what it's like to feel this way...I have such a hard time controling my emotions, especially with my sister...It's hard but I gotta trust God to help me, and He does!
Blessings to you my friend.
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Oh my....
This is so very sad....
yet so filled with wisdom...
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