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  • Username-Is-Taken
    Oct 9 2:11 PM
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    So I have a boyfriend who I've been with for about half a year now, and he is the sweetest most amazing person. The problem is I don't think I am necessarilly attracted to him romantically, and I have a crush on a girl who goes to my school and is almost two years older. My boyfriend's mother died recently and I don't want to hurt him anymore, but I feel terrible for lying to him like this.

  • Daegal
    October 9
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    You're just going to hurt him more if he finds out you don't care for him romantically. Relationships aren't a charity, you can't stay with him if you're not attracted to him just because you don't want to hurt his feelings.

    Either way, I think you're probably going to hurt him, it's just a case of figuring out how to minimise the damage.

    • -BlackKnight-
      October 9
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      WHAT?! Actual insight?! How dare you?!

      • Daegal
        October 9
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        I have to fill a quota of how much genuine advice to give, otherwise I don't get paid.

  • Capitaine Rouge
    October 9
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    Heheh. I thought you were going to say something about a new username since the one you wanted was supposedly taken. No matter. I refuse to discuss other people's relationships.

    • midna77
      October 9
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      true..it's complicated and goes into life too much

      • Capitaine Rouge
        October 10
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        I listen to too many people's problems to care a whole lot any more. And then they wonder why I never share what's going on in my life. Ah, yes, that's right, I never get a chance to say anything, and nobody would listen anyway! Alas, my *friends* suck.

  • Relala
    October 9
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    It will hurt him either way. Try to be nice. Maybe say your not ready for a relationship. Don't lead people on, it only hurts worse later on. Beleieve me.

  • Slaughter Lord
    October 9
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    mmm I say shoot him. then he wont be hurt and you dont have to tell him. problem solved

  • Megalodon
    October 10
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    Help me too. I got with my friend the other week. Now i'm getting kicked out I have to stay with him til I sort myself out. He thinks that I like him. I don't. I should do he's just not mad enough.

  • AllWeAreIsBullets
    October 10
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    Tell him that you feel this way, if you wait you will hurt him even more. Tell him you'll still be there for him(and mean it) but you don't want him as a boyfriend. Thats about all you can do I think.

    <3

    • Benjamin Lucas
      October 10
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      Must you end every post with <3?

      I don't mind it or anything, but let's be a little creative!

      End it with...


      • AllWeAreIsBullets
        October 10
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        It's not that its all I could think of, my signature thing is something different but it takes too long to write everytime and it can't even look the way it's supposed to on here. I wanted to put something at the end tho so people knew I loved them so I put a heart

        I like the santa face btw..

        <3

  • Chickpea
    October 10
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    If you aren't attracted to him you are going to have to break up. I can see why you would want to stay with him, his mother and all, just so you don't hurt him but the longer you wait the more it will hurt him, because he will think you are more commited. Perhaps tell him you don't want to be together as a couple but you are there as a friend to support him through this time.

    As to the older girl, once you have broken up with your guy I would say go for her but know your own limits, older people can sometimes pressure younger people beyond what they are comfortable with, sometimes without even knowing. The other thing I would advise would be not rubbing your current boyfriends nose in the new relationship, be discrete if you want to spare his feelings, just for a little while mind, not forever. He would need to deal with his ex's dating again eventually but if he is having such a tough time I would wait a while because of that reason.
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