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Too Young For That?


  • Miyuki
    Jun 16 12:09 AM
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    I want your opinion on the words "You can't have that, you're too young." I personally think it's the stupidest thing ever to say that. I'm going to see it one day, why not see it now.

  • Lievland
    June 17
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    what do you meau by saying "i am going to see it one day, why can't i see it now?" what is it you want to see, and why?


    • PrayenForHayden
      June 17
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      Exactly!

    • Miyuki
      June 18
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      Well, I myself am mostly concerned with books and the dreaded "OT(Older Teen), 16+", so there usually goes my chance(even though I do read 3 OT series) and what I'm saying is that I'm buying it no matter what, so why not now? I'm just like that.

  • dinodany
    June 18
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    oh good god...

    I think your right, they keep "preparing" us for the real world but refuse to show it to us!!

  • Sun-shiney
    June 18
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    ya. cause when the time comes we won't be prepared. i mean if ur under 12 i can see why but 14 and up who cares its our lives.

  • Scott Adelmann
    June 19
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    You are too young to understand.

    Actually, you will see whatever you want to see - but it is a parent's job to do his or her best to make sure that you know the difference between right or wrong. If the material in question is of questionable moral value, he parent should do his/her best to keep the child from seeing it - this way, at least the child has a place from which to judge the material for themselves.

    Most parents understand that he olde a child gets the harder it is to control what the child does, sees, hears, etc. But, a good parent doesn't just quit because the child has become a teenager and now has all the answers.

  • Barbara
    June 20
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    Reality isn't fair. It's not intended to be, nor should it.


  • Vagabond Samurai
    June 22
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    Young people are capable of doing and understand a lot more than our current society tells us. But the young people are targeted more and more by many organizations, corporations, et al, that they end up in mentally dire straits.

  • DanielleNicole
    June 24
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    What adults don't realize is that most teens aren't that immature some have more sense then they think we have.They tell us to grow up then we are told we are too young to understand.

  • Dienush
    June 27
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    Hmm well now nobody tells me that anymore, it's more like, "you're young enough not to worry about that" - well not in these words but that's the idea.

    However, I've often not been able to view stuff on the Internet at a younger age... so guess what I did: I made other accounts for those sites with fake ages, and never looked again because it just wasn't something that preoccupied me yet (well, except on one occasion in which I was 17 claiming to be 18.... and they think one year will make aaaaall the difference in someone's maturity. Ah well.)

    No, I'm not advising you to do that. What I'm saying is, I think that most people would dwell on some things at a certain age, so you may not even care for said things if you just knew you could see them. I've heard this from other teens, too.

    That said, I hate it when people judge others solely based on their age. Granted, there's a better chance at being experienced when you're older, but how can you know someone's circumstances? Why not judge personality instead of age? Sure, put them in correlation, but don't judge *solely* on someone's age. I remember feeling disrespected when I was younger, because I felt others weren't taking me seriously. In time I got older and realized some don't take me seriously because THEY can't, not because there's a problem with me.

    Anyway... really, I was just thinking about this. Sometimes knowing some things really CAN be a burden. But again, I don't think it's just your age that says if you're ready. It's sort of funny and creepy at the same time, though, how people are so afraid to talk about certain things to their children, in order to "protect" them, that they forget the fact that the question has arisen probably means the child NEEDS to be taught about it, or worse things may happen as s/he tries to learn from third parties who may or may not have such great intentions...

  • Kitesen
    July 3
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    Take your time

    Most teens don't like to see that their parents ( elder people ) have been young too and gone through the same strugles. Nevertheless grew up with ofcourse peeping in here and there and find out that maturity has nothing to do with subjects' acknodlegment but with mentally understanding of all these very different kind stuff. Wise people will help you to understand the difference at the right age.
    So if nosy kids or teens are as mature as they think they would open a discussion about the subject instead of complaining, that doesn't mean it has to be their parents although they are legally responsible. Also something to be understood. But as Dienush wrote be very beholding on who you choose to be your teacher.
    And as if like it is forbidden to speak the word, it is not only about sexual expliciet things, there are a lot of other cases this goes up even religious or humanastic or even social subjects are not always so easy to understand. So take your time with some luck you've another 7 decennia to learn about.

  • Miyuki
    July 4
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    Another question I have is the fact that a parent would take away something after their child had already drunk the whole thing in. My Mom took away all the Parental Advisory CDs from the computer and has hidden them all away despite the fact that I'd already heard it all and that I have copies of most of them myself. Would there be a point in that? Not exactly. She also gives me complete access to all the things she wants to keep away from me by letting me use the internet, since I am mostly concerned with manga, which is the most common form of book found on the internet. She leaves the computer on when she leaves the house, so that gives me direct access to anything I want. She also ignored the fact that all the PA songs are still in the Recycle Bin. Also, she usually dumps my distress over these items on the fact that I have Asperger's, so that is also quite annoying. And yes, this was just a place to vent, because I don't have enough time at my counselor's, and that he has on several occasions told my Mom things I didn't want him to. Such as, he told my Mom that she shouldn't let me listen to the music I did since he had watched by MMVs(manga music videos). I also don't want to write it on paper for the fact that my Mom might find it, like she found my stories, the ones that cuss, since she cleans my room and does all sorts of stuff to it, most of which I don't want. I'm in the state of mind where I would not mind having one of those parents who don't care. This wouldn't be all the bad for the fact that I only want to see violent horror R-rated movies, but would be too squeamish to see it, and I don't really have any care about stuff on the internet like MySpace. It would come in handy for books, because people can't rate books anymore, trust me on this one.
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